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   S1 · E157 · 7 Oct 2026 · 42 minNew

   I Found Out My Husband Had A 16-Year-Old Son I Knew NOTHING About

   Imagine receiving a letter and discovering your husband has a 16-year-old son you knew absolutely nothing about. One listener had spent years believing his version of how a previous relationship ended, only for a child-support letter to reveal the truth. Now she’s trying to process the fact that her husband kept an entire child secret from her, while working out how they eventually tell their own 10 and 8-year-old children that they have an older brother. And the biggest question is: after a lie this big, how do you ever trust someone again? We also hear from a gay listener who’s been…

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   S1 · E156 · 30 Sep 2026 · 40 min

   I’m The Other Woman… And I’ve Fallen In Love With Him

   One Bestie has a confession she never thought she’d be making: she’s the other woman. What started with a work colleague who has a long-term partner and two children has turned into a year-long affair, and now they’ve both admitted they have feelings for each other. She knows what they’re doing is wrong and desperately wants to end it, but there’s one major problem: she still has to see him at work. So how do you walk away from someone you’ve fallen for when you can’t completely remove them from your life? Then, for the first time, we hear the other side from a male listener who fell deeply…

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   S1 · E155 · 23 Sep 2026 · 1 hr 5 min

   Carly Got A Nose Job… And She’s Finally Revealing Everything

   Carly is back with a new nose! After years of feeling insecure about it, she finally flew to Turkey alone for the nose job she’d wanted for years. She opens up about why she decided to do it, the panic that hit before surgery, the mental battle during recovery and what it was really like seeing her new face for the first time. We also get very honest about the financial reality of becoming a single parent, the pressure of trying to keep up a lifestyle that was originally built on two incomes, and why single mums can so often feel forgotten. Plus, one Bestie shares the story of spending 15…

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   S1 · E153 · 9 Sep 2026 · 45 min

   Carly’s Dating Update Just Took A VERY Weird Turn…

   Carly thought she’d finally met someone who ticked all the boxes: great chemistry, great dates, hours spent talking on the phone and seemingly all the right things to say. Then she discovered he was sleeping with multiple women. But this week, the story takes an even stranger turn when she finds him back on Tinder… using a completely different name. Now she’s questioning whether she ever really knew who she was dating in the first place. We also hear from a woman whose affair with her married boss spiralled into years of broken promises, pregnancy, heartbreak and her private life being…

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   S1 · E152 · 2 Sep 2026 · 1 hr 26 min

   Young Parents, 3 Million Followers And Life Behind The Kern Family

   Eight months into their relationship, Charlotte found out she was pregnant at just 20 years old. From becoming young parents and figuring out their relationship along the way, to building a life online with an audience of over 3 million, this week we’re joined by Connor Kern and Charlotte Cucurnia from The Kern Family. We get into the reality behind the family you see online; becoming parents before they were prepared, the pressures it put on their relationship, arguments and learning how to communicate, why relationship therapy came up, raising three children and balancing family life with…

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   S1 · E151 · 26 Aug 2026 · 41 min

   I Gave My Cheating Husband A Second Chance… 10 Years Later I Regret It

   She discovered her husband was having an affair, chose to forgive him and spent the next 10 years rebuilding their marriage… only to find herself right back where she started. This week, we hear from a woman questioning whether she wasted a decade after discovering the red flags had returned — and the receipts she eventually found left very little to the imagination. Now single at 50, she’s trying to stop blaming herself for staying and work out what comes next. We also hear from a mum trapped in an increasingly controlling relationship who is terrified of how her partner will react to even…

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   S1 · E150 · 19 Aug 2026 · 38 min

   My Boyfriend Faked Cancer While My Mum Was Dying

   Imagine watching your mum die from cancer while the man you trust tells you his cancer has come back too… only to discover he made the whole thing up. This week we hear from a listener whose boyfriend lied about having cancer while her mum was terminally ill, before she discovered he had been cheating all along. We also hear from a woman who spent years trying to save her marriage through debt, lies and affairs, only to uncover another year-long relationship and experience the reality of post-separation abuse after finally leaving. Plus, we chat manifestation, dating red flags, what really…

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   S1 · E149 · 12 Aug 2026 · 42 min

   I Married The Wrong Person… But It Led Me To The Love Of My Life

   What if your biggest heartbreak is actually the beginning of your happiest chapter? This week, we share some of the most uplifting listener stories we’ve ever received. From a woman whose husband left her for her friend before she unexpectedly found the love of her life, to a listener whose husband walked out just weeks after their wedding and during pregnancy, only for her to build the blended family she’d always dreamed of. We also hear from women who thought they’d never trust again, survived affairs, divorce and heartbreak, and discovered that life really can get better. Watch the…

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   S1 · E148 · 5 Aug 2026 · 1 hr 14 min

   Hollie Dowding: Surviving Domestic Violence... How I Finally Sent My Abuser To Prison

   When Hollie Dowding finally walked away from her abusive relationship, she never imagined the journey that would follow. In this powerful and emotional conversation, Hollie shares how coercive control, trauma bonding and domestic abuse slowly took over her life, why leaving wasn't as simple as "just walking away", and how she found the strength to fight for justice, ultimately seeing her abuser sent to prison. She also opens up about the healing process, living with PTSD, and why she's now dedicated to helping other survivors through her podcast and House of H.E.R. This is one of the most…

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    S1 · E147 · 29 Jul 2026 · 37 min

    My Husband Is The Perfect Dad… So Why Do I Think He’s Cheating?

    A listener tells us about the growing feeling she can’t ignore… her husband seems like the perfect dad, but she’s convinced something isn’t right. Is she overthinking it, or are the signs pointing to something more? We unpack the story, share our honest advice, and discuss whether trust your instincts or give your partner the benefit of the doubt. Plus, we help a listener improve their dating profile, chat about modern dating, and answer more of your relationship dilemmas and listener stories. If you’ve ever questioned your relationship, doubted your instincts, or wondered if you’re seeing…

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