119 - TSR: They told me I'm 'too nice'??

24 Feb 2026 · 1 hr 2 min

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Have you ever gotten feedback that made you want to flip a table because it was both insulting and totally useless? In this Top Shelf Replay , we revisit "They Told Me I'm Too Nice" and break down what that kind of vague feedback is really doing (sometimes gendered, almost always inactionable), why it hits so hard, and how to respond without spiraling - or people-pleasing your way into a personality transplant. Then we go beyond the original episode with practical, real-world tactics: how to ask better follow-up questions, how to force examples without sounding defensive, how to "prime" your…

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Project Management Happy Hour

Kim Essendrup and Kate Anderson · Business · English

PM Happy Hour is the place for frank and honest discussion about real world issues in project management. We do it in a way that's not too dry, though it may get a bit salty from time to time. Each episode, your hosts Kim Essendrup and Kate Anderson cover a problem faced in project management today

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