Episode 102 · Robot Unicorn
Brain Stuckness: Reducing Power Struggles & Building Flexibility (Part 2)
30 Mar 2026 · 35 min
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This week, Jess and Scott talk about how to reduce power struggles and brain stuckness. You'll gain crucial insights into why toddlers can't self-regulate, how 'radical honesty' diffuses tension, and why over-explaining rules can actually invite more defiance. Tune in to learn how to speak your child's language through play and become a more confident, trusted leader in your home. Check out these Robot Unicorn episodes for more on the impact of screens, social media and gaming on our kids: How To Create Healthy Screentime Habits with Dr. Michael Robb (12/15/2025) The Impact Of Social Media,…
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Join me, Jess VanderWier, a registered psychotherapist, mom of three, and founder of Nurtured First, along with my husband Scott, as we dive deep into the stories of our friends, favourite celebrities, and influential figures. In each episode, we skip the small talk and dive into vulnerable and h
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