Throwback: 5 Ways to Recognize Pathological Demand Avoidance at School | Ep. 179

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   S1 · E182 · 29 Sep 2026 · 1 hr 9 min

   To School or Not to School: A Decision Making Framework for Parents of PDA Children and Teens | Ep. 182

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   S1 · E181 · 22 Sep 2026 · 1 hr 59 min

   Screens Are Not So Scary, Reducing Autonomy Is: Restoring Childhood With Dr. Peter Gray | Ep. 181

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   S1 · E180 · 15 Sep 2026 · 51 min

   Education and PDA at a Sudbury School: A Conversation With Bryer Newlin | Ep. 180

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   S1 · E178 · 1 Sep 2026 · 1 hr 12 min

   Educational Exclusion, Radical Trust, and What PDA-Affirming Schooling Looks Like: Otto Specht School | Ep. 178

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   S1 · E177 · 25 Aug 2026 · 49 min

   One Year Later: Justin's Story of Progress With His PDA Son | Ep. 177

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   S1 · E176 · 18 Aug 2026 · 18 min

   Basic Needs and Pathological Demand Avoidance: Toileting, Sleep, Hygiene, Eating, and Safety | Ep. 176

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   S1 · E183 · 6 Oct 2026 · 1 hr 3 min

   PDA and School: Patterns, Advocacy, and Accommodations With Dr. Alex Klein | Ep. 183

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   S1 · E175 · 11 Aug 2026 · 23 min

   Throwback: Is Pathological Demand Avoidance the Same as Autism, ADHD, or Anxiety? | Ep. 175

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   S1 · E174 · 4 Aug 2026 · 18 min

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    S1 · E173 · 28 Jul 2026 · 18 min

    Finding Meaning as a Parent of a Pathological Demand Avoidance Child or Teen | Ep. 173

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