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But Are You Happy?

by Mamamia Podcasts · English · Health

Join Ashani Dante and Clinical Psychologist Dr Anastasia Hronis as they give you the no-bullsh*t self-development and mental health information you really need. Because no, another personality quiz won’t fix you.

New episodes: Weekly
Typical length: 34 min
Latest: 17 Jul 2026
Language: English

Latest episode

17 Jul 2026 · 55 min

Why Group Chats Feel So Exhausting (And What To Do About It)

You know that feeling when you open your group chat and there are 287 unread messages... so you immediately close it again? Whether you're the ghost who never replies, the lurker silently catching up on conversations, or the friend who feels guilty every time they leave someone on read, you're not alone. Group chats were supposed to make us feel more connected, so why do they leave so many of us feeling overwhelmed instead? In this episode of But Are You Happy? , host Ashani Dante is joined by Milly Rose Bannister, award-winning founder of the youth mental health charity ALLKND, to unpack…

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10 Jul 2026 · 40 min

How To Stop Overthinking What People Think Of You

Have you ever replayed a conversation over and over in your head, convinced someone was criticising you? Or spiralled after your boss said, "Can we have a chat?" only to discover it was nothing at all? The truth is, our brains are wired to take things personally. But that doesn't mean every awkward interaction, delayed reply or offhand comment is actually about you. In this episode of But Are You Happy? , host Ashani Dante is joined by clinical psychologist Anita Shimmins to unpack why we take things so personally, where those reactions come from, and how we can stop letting them control our…
3 Jul 2026 · 49 min

What First Nations People Know About Wellbeing That We Don't

Have you ever wondered why modern life can leave us feeling so disconnected, even when we're doing everything we're told should make us feel well? This NAIDOC Week, But Are You Happy? explores a different way of understanding mental health — one grounded in connection, community and relationships rather than simply treating illness. In this episode, host Ashani Dante is joined by proud Gamilaraay man, psychologist and Director of First Nations Strategy at the Black Dog Institute, Dr Clinton Schultz. Together, they unpack what First Nations perspectives on social and emotional wellbeing…
26 Jun 2026 · 50 min

Why You Don't Trust Anyone Anymore (And How To Change That)

You’ve probably heard the advice to "trust your gut." But what happens when your gut missed something that broke your heart? Whether you've been cheated on, lied to, blindsided by someone you loved, or simply had your trust shaken, rebuilding it can feel impossible. Not just trust in other people, but trust in yourself. In this episode of But Are You Happy? , host Ashani Dante is joined once again by clinical psychotherapist Sarah Bays to unpack what trust actually is, why betrayal can completely dismantle our sense of safety, and how we begin putting ourselves back together…
19 Jun 2026 · 44 min

How To Fight Back Against Hustle Culture, High Cortisol and Burnout

You’ll want to send this episode to your friends who are perpetually exhausted, overcommitted, or anyone whose version of "rest" is actually just deep scrolling on the couch while their mind continues to run at 100 miles an hour. Did you know that sleep doesn't automatically equal recovery? Or have you noticed that after a supposedly lazy weekend, you sometimes wake up on Monday morning feeling more depleted than you did on Friday night? In this episode of But Are You Happy?, host Ashani Dante sits down with clinical psychologist, speaker, and mental health consultant Shuktika Bose to…
12 Jun 2026 · 43 min

The 'Understanding Depression' Episode Everyone Should Listen To

You’ll want to send this episode to every friend who casually drops the phrase "I'm so depressed" when they're just having a bad day, or anyone trying to figure out where normal sadness ends and something much heavier begins. Have you noticed how casually we throw around major mental health terms over coffee, accidentally minimizing a condition that deeply impacts both the brain and the body? In this episode of But Are You Happy?, host Ashani Dante sits down with clinical psychologist Julie Chapman to explore the complex reality of depression. We go beyond the casual slang to uncover…
5 Jun 2026 · 51 min

Catching Feelings In Your Situationship? We Got You.

Are you being "breadcrumbed" (do you even know what 'breadcrumbing" is?). Are you trapped in a loop of romantic ambiguity, where you're getting just enough intimacy to stay hooked, but left staring at your phone wondering if you're even allowed to call them when you're having a bad day? In this episode of But Are You Happy , host Ashani Dante talks with clinical psychotherapist Sarah Bays to pull back the curtain on the confusing world of situationships. We’re moving beyond the surface level to explore the psychological tightrope of living in relational limbo, unpacking why we…
29 May 2026 · 54 min

The Manosphere Is A Scamosphere (And This Is How You Fight It)

You will want to send this episode to your husband, brother, boyfriend, son and all the men in your life. Did you know that some online influencers use a rented facade of Lamborghinis and mansions just to trap young men into harmful algorithmic loops? Or have you noticed the boys in your life changing how they act the second they are in a group? In this episode of But Are You Happy, host Ashani Dante sits down with guest Ben Vasilou, CEO of The Man Cave, to pull back the curtain on the rise of the manosphere and modern masculinity. We’re moving beyond the surface level to explore the…
22 May 2026 · 37 min

Girl, It’s Not Gastro, It’s Perfectionism.

Ever feel like staying up for hours perfecting a single email, or completely paralyzed by the fear of failing at a new project? In this episode of But Are You Happy, host Ashani Dante pulls back the curtain on the sneaky reality of chronic perfectionism. We’re moving beyond the surface level to explore the inner turmoil and emotional load that comes with tying your entire self-worth to your performance. Joining the conversation is clinical psychologist Anita Shimmins from Inlight Psychology to unpack why we carry this deep underlying fear of failure and how it subtly infiltrates our…
20 May 2026 · 1 min

We Have A Surprise For You…

A new season of But Are You Happy? Is coming your way. You told us you wanted deep-dive, informative conversations with leading experts about all the things impacting your self-development and mental health. We got you. You’ll be hearing from experts such as Sarah Bays, Millie Rose Bannister and Ben Vasilou, on topics ranging from situationships, navigating tricky group chats, and pushing back against perfectionism. Same great show, new conversations. Don’t forget to click “follow” [+] on your podcast app so you don’t miss a thing. Support the show:…
15 May 2026 · 4 min

Your Quick Guide To Saying No

Struggling to say no... to anyone? In this bonus episode, Ashani delivers the pep talk you need to start advocating for yourself and setting healthier boundaries, whether it’s at work, with friends, or with the people asking a little too much of you right now. Watch the podcast on YouTube here . If you or someone you know needs support, contact Lifeline on 13 11 14 or Beyond Blue on 1300 22 4636 . Both services are available 24/7 for free, confidential mental health support. GET IN TOUCH Want to get in touch with us? DM @butareyouhappypod on Instagram or send us a voice memo . Our…
8 May 2026 · 4 min

The Pep Talk You Need Before Doing A Hard Thing

In this bonus episode, Ashani gives you a reassuring pep talk for when you're feeling anxious before a presentation, event, or any situation that feels overwhelming, and the self-talk shifts that can help you calm your nerves and show up anyway. Watch the podcast on YouTube here . If you or someone you know needs support, contact Lifeline on 13 11 14 or Beyond Blue on 1300 22 4636 . Both services are available 24/7 for free, confidential mental health support. GET IN TOUCH Want to get in touch with us? DM @butareyouhappypod on Instagram or send us a voice memo . Our hosts are ready to hear…
1 May 2026 · 9 min

Feeling Overwhelmed? Try This Quick Grounding Exercise

In this bonus episode, Dr Anastasia Hronis offers a calming 10-minute reset to help you step out of the chaos of daily life. This guided exercise invites you to engage your senses: sight, touch, and sound, to ground your attention. If your mind wanders, that’s okay. Gently bring it back and continue. A practical, soothing way to reconnect with the present moment. Watch the podcast on YouTube here . If you or someone you know needs support, contact Lifeline on 13 11 14 or Beyond Blue on 1300 22 4636 . Both services are available 24/7 for free, confidential mental health support. GET IN…
24 Apr 2026 · 26 min

Here's When Setting A Boundary Is Actually Necessary

Have you ever “set a boundary” because a TikTok told you it was the only way to protect your peace? In this episode of But Are You Happy , hosts Ashani Dante and Dr. Anastasia Hronis unpack the idea of weaponised boundaries and explore how to tell whether yours are healthy gates or rigid walls that might be keeping people out unnecessarily. You’ll also learn: How to identify the boundaries that are actually right for you How to communicate your needs clearly without turning the other person into the villain Why resentment is often a key sign that you’ve been ignoring…
17 Apr 2026 · 30 min

How To Build A Healthier Relationship With Ageing

Have you ever caught your reflection, noticed a new grey hair or a random ache, and felt that sudden wave of existential dread about where the time has gone? In this episode of But Are You Happy , hosts Ashani Dante and Dr. Anastasia Hronis unpack the physical realities of ageing, explore how death anxiety fuels our worries, and share healthier ways to relate to the passage of time. You’ll also learn: Why your biological age doesn’t always match how old you feel How to slow the “quickening” of time by breaking out of rigid routines How to acknowledge and process the…
14 Apr 2026 · 45 min

ICYMI: The 7 Signs You’re Living With A Narcissist (That Everyone Misses)

Have you noticed the word narcissist being thrown around a lot lately and found yourself wondering whether someone’s actually a narcissist… or just unpleasant? In this episode of But Are You Happy , clinical psychologist Dr. Anastasia Hronis breaks down what narcissism really is, how to recognise it, and what you can do if there’s a narcissist in your life. You’ll also learn: Where Narcissistic Personality Disorder comes from The key red flags and behaviours to watch for in a narcissistic relationship How to navigate life with a narcissist, whether it’s a…
10 Apr 2026 · 37 min

The Biggest Borderline Personality Disorder Myths & How To Get A Diagnosis

Have you ever been told you’re “too much” or “too sensitive,” only to find yourself caught in an exhausting cycle - loving someone intensely one moment, then wanting to push them away the next? In this episode of But Are You Happy , hosts Ashani Dante and Dr. Anastasia Hronis unpack Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) with clarity and compassion. They explore the why behind the intense emotional swings and relationship struggles that define BPD, shifting the conversation away from judgment and toward real clinical understanding. You’ll also learn: How…
7 Apr 2026 · 43 min

ICYMI: How To Silence Your Inner Critic (For Real)

Do you ever notice that inner voice—the one that’s quick to judge or put you down, even though you’d never speak to a friend that way? In this episode of But Are You Happy , clinical psychologist Dr. Anastasia Hronis talks about how to deal with your inner critic, especially when it starts affecting your mental health, and how to start building a more supportive voice instead. You'll also learn: Where that critical voice comes from Whether it gets easier to manage as we get older Signs someone might be struggling with self-worth Practical ways to build self-compassion If…
3 Apr 2026 · 31 min

Ways To Stop AI From Making You Dumber

Where do you stand on AI? Are you all in, a little nervous, or still figuring it out? Maybe you’re somewhere in the middle - curious, cautious, and ready to see what it really means for us. In this episode of But Are You Happy , hosts Ashani Dante and Dr. Anastasia Hronis go past the headlines to explore the psychology of AI. They look at how these tools aren’t just changing what we do - they’re changing how we think, solve problems, and even seek emotional connection. You’ll also learn: Why leaning on chatbots might be weakening your problem-solving skills How…
27 Mar 2026 · 30 min

Why We Get Emotionally Attached To Strangers On The Internet

Why do we form one-sided bonds with people we've never met? In this episode of But Are You Happy , hosts Ashani Dante and Dr. Anastasia Hronis pull back the curtain on parasocial relationships and how the digital age has blurred the lines between "fan" and "friend." You'll also learn: Practical questions to ask yourself if your celeb obsession is getting… unhealthy Why we turn to one-sided relationships to meet emotional needs How most parasocial relationships aren't actually "creepy" - they're just an extension of our social evolution (until they aren’t) How to cultivate…
20 Mar 2026 · 26 min

These Three Parts Explain Every Reaction You’ve Ever Had

Have you ever thought to yourself, “Why am I reacting exactly like my mother right now?” In this episode of But Are You Happy, hosts Ashani Dante and Dr. Anastasia Hronis pull back the curtain on intergenerational trauma. We’re moving beyond the surface level to explore the "ghosts" in your DNA - the ones that make you react to a minor inconvenience like it’s a family-wide emergency. You'll also learn: How trauma is physically passed down through your genes Why the goal isn't to "delete" your difficult parts How to determine if you grew up in a "military-grade" or…
13 Mar 2026 · 26 min

Why You Feel “Behind” In Life (And What To Do About It)

Do you ever feel like you’re falling behind in life? You’re not the only one quietly wondering about the timeline. In this episode, Ashani Dante and clinical psychologist Dr. Anastasia Hronis explore the “quiet grief” that can arise when life looks different from the one you once planned. You'll also learn: How to embrace "identity plasticity" Practical ways to distinguish between being "behind" your own goals versus someone else's Why it’s valid to mourn the "alternate version" of your life How to balance self-compassion with taking steps toward the things you…
6 Mar 2026 · 39 min

Is Your Happiness DNA Actually Working Against You?

Are you happy? Oh. Sorry. Was that too direct? It’s a simple question, but it tends to make people shift in their seats. In this episode of But Are You Happy?, Ashani Dante and clinical psychologist Anastasia Hronis finally unpack the very question that inspired the podcast and, somehow, until now, we’ve never properly answered. Together, they explore: The difference between hedonic and eudaimonic happiness Why contentment might matter more than constant joy How social media and external validation can distort our idea of happiness A simple framework to help you cultivate more…
27 Feb 2026 · 30 min

A World News Survival Guide For Big Feelers

Does your chest tighten every time you open your phone lately? Do you feel like the world is on fire and you’re somehow supposed to just keep going to work, answer emails, and “stay informed”? In this episode of But Are You Happy , host Ashani Dante and clinical psychologist Dr. Anastasia Hronis unpack what it actually means to live in the age of information overload. From clickbait headlines and doom-scrolling at 11pm, they explore how constant exposure to bad news impacts our nervous systems and why so many of us are feeling helpless, hopeless, or just emotionally…
30 Jan 2026 · 34 min

Find Out If You're An Introvert, Extrovert, Or… Ambivert?

Does the idea of a networking event make your stomach do backflips while your friends seem to thrive in the chaos? In this season finale of But Are You Happy , host Ashani Dante and clinical psychologist Dr. Anastasia Hronis pull back the curtain on our social personalities. We’re moving beyond the simple labels to find out where you actually sit on the spectrum and why "summer social season" can feel so different for everyone. You'll also learn: The five major personality traits and how extroversion fits in Why the "chaotic middle" might be exactly where you land The clinical red…
23 Jan 2026 · 34 min

How To Tell The Difference Between A Cult & A Community

Have you ever looked at a fandom, wellness community, or online movement and thought… this feels a little culty ? In this episode of But Are You Happy, host Ashani Dante and clinical psychologist Dr Anastasia Hronis unpack why the word cult gets thrown around so easily and what actually separates cults from fandoms like Swifties, Beliebers, or other high-devotion communities. You’ll also learn: What a cult actually is (and why there’s no single definition) Why charismatic leaders hold so much power How belonging, meaning, and identity make people vulnerable to high-demand…
16 Jan 2026 · 30 min

Empathy Fatigue & What To Do When You're Too Exhausted To Care

Do you ever feel like you’re constantly the one listening, supporting, and showing up for others, until one day you hit a wall and think, I can't do this anymore? In this episode of But Are You Happy, host Ashani Dante and clinical psychologist Dr Anastasia Hronis unpack empathy fatigue; why being the “strong,” supportive one can leave you emotionally drained, and how to tell the difference between compassion and burnout. You’ll also learn: What empathy fatigue actually is (and why it’s more common than you think) How constant emotional labour impacts your…
9 Jan 2026 · 16 min

A Guide To Navigating Family & Friends You Can't Get Along With

Navigating family and friends you might not agree with can be… a lot. It’s the season of parties, BBQs, long lunches, and gatherings you may have been voluntold to attend, and with that often comes complicated family dynamics and people you might have very mixed feelings about seeing. In this episode of But Are You Happy , clinical psychologist Dr Anastasia Hronis and co-host Ashani Dante share practical tools for navigating difficult conversations, setting boundaries, and showing up in a way that feels better for you this season. You’ll also learn: Why family comments can…
2 Jan 2026 · 20 min

How To Stress Less About Money Pressures

Money, money, money. Spending on gifts, travel, food, and everything else feels almost unavoidable around the holiday periods. But what about the stress and panic that hits every time you open Apple Pay or tap your card at the checkout? In this episode of But Are You Happy , clinical psychologist Dr Anastasia Hronis and co-host Ashani Dante unpack the financial pressures of the holidays. They’ll also share practical ways to shift your focus from consumption to connection , helping you enjoy the season without the overwhelm. You’ll also learn: Why we feel pressured to “keep…
26 Dec 2025 · 30 min

The Psychology Of Alcohol & Social Drinking

We want to have some honest conversations to support you through events where alcohol is present and maybe even invite you to consider a sober-curious 2026. In this episode of But Are You Happy , clinical psychologist Dr Anastasia Hronis and co-host Ashani Dante explore the psychology of alcohol: why social drinking becomes such a big part of the holidays, and how you can approach this time of year more mindfully. You’ll also learn: How alcohol affects the brain and the body How alcohol impacts men and women differently The social psychology of drinking and why it feels hard not to…

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But Are You Happy? is a English health podcast from Mamamia Podcasts. Melo plays each episode straight from the publisher's own feed — no ads added, no account needed — and remembers where you stopped, in this browser only.

Publisher: Mamamia Podcasts
Language: English
Category: Health
New episodes: Weekly
Typical length: 34 min
Latest episode: 17 Jul 2026
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