Diffusing Resistance and Power Struggles

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   S2 · E2 · 7 Apr 2024 · 17 min

   Roots of Behaviour

   'To fix or not to fix their behaviours'. A compliance-based approach tries to fix children. In contrast the LEAD approach is relational, child-led, and reflective. We reflect on what's missing, what's driving their behaviour and support the roots of their development, feeling safe and connected. For more direct support with your parenting challenges, you are warmly invited to contact Laura to have a free chat at www.ReadySteadyConnect.com Laura is a registered therapist with a specialism in children and teens mental health and well-being.

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   S2 · E1 · 7 Apr 2024 · 21 min

   Welcome the New Year with Tears!

   As we start the year full of hope for our families, we consider an unlikely source of happiness......tears of sadness. When we, or our children, 'have a good cry', it helps our bodies release stress hormones so they don't get stuck inside. Crying helps us clear out the emotional stuff so we can think and function better on the other side. References: Facebook/Hand in Hand Parenting, to find a Listening Partner Running on Empty by Jonice Webb For more direct support with your parenting challenges, you are warmly invited to contact Laura for a free chat at www.ReadySteadyConnect.com Laura is a…

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   S1 · E19 · 26 Mar 2024 · 29 min

   Self-Compassion & Emotional Buffering

   Our New Year starts with a passage from Gerard Durrell as we explore his insights about mothering from his childhood memories; the importance of 'hope' in the face of what can feel 'hope-less'; self compassion as a predecessor to being compassionate parents and navigating the emotional storms with emotional buffering. Refernces: books by Gerard Durrell, The Brave Learner by Jule Bogart For moredirect support with your parenting challenges, you are warmly invited to conact Laura for a free chat at www.ReadySteadyConnect.com Laura is a registered therapiost with a specialism in children and…

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   S1 · E18 · 23 Dec 2023 · 22 min

   Introducing the PRRR model as we close for 2023

   Our last episode for 2023 takes us on a brief reflection of past themes, as well as introducing the PRRR model as another way to summarise our parenting approach and WIN as a way of remembering to be empathic with our kids. The PRRR model - Protect Relate Regulate Reflect - comes from TISUK ( www.traumainformedschools.co.uk ) which supports schools to become trauma and mental health-informed. WIN represents the following sentence starters: I Wonder, I Imagine, I Notice. For more direct support with your parenting challenges, you are warmly invited to contact Laura for a free chat at…

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   S1 · E17 · 16 Dec 2023 · 21 min

   Six levels of deepening our connections

   We take a deep dive into Neufeld's 6 levels of attachment so we can better understand our kids relationship needs. We weave this in with having realistic expectations (not being the 'perfect' parent), and the importance of their freedom to play and freedom to rest in their relationship with us. Here's a short explanation that summarises Neufeld's attahcment stages: https://youtu.be/z7LHQwKpryw?si=kr3UHjb2gG94JGKd For more direct support with your parenting challenges, you are warmly invited to contact Laura to have a free chat at www.ReadySteadyConnect.com Laura is a registered therapist…

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   S1 · E15 · 29 Nov 2023 · 25 min

   The sacrifices we make & the process of letting go

   We all make sacrifices for the sake of our kids but sometimes they are very different to what we expected and planned for. There can be so much to let go of, from our vision of what it was supposed to look like. In this episode we explore what that looks like in our families and why this process of letting go is so important to staying in the caring LEAD with our children. For more direct support with your parenting challenges, you are warmly invited to contact Laura to have a free chat at www.ReadySteadyConnect.com Laura is a registered therapist with a specialism in children and teens…

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   S1 · E14 · 13 Nov 2023 · 23 min

   Loss & Nostalgia meet Family Values and Connection

   Remembrance Sunday has brought up losses and nostalgia for when our children were younger, for all the things we wish we'd known then, for missed opportunities for connection. On the flip side, we talk about building our family now, embedding our values and creating opportunities for connection. For more direct support with your parenting challenges, contact Laura at www.ReadySteadyConnect.com to book a free chat. Laura is a registered therapist with a specialism in childrens' mental health and well-being.

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   S1 · E13 · 6 Nov 2023 · 29 min

   Dependence, rest and play

   We value independence and getting ahead so we unwittingly push our children towards it earlier and earlier. But Nature has her own plan! Our children need to feel safe to depend on us so they can rest in the relationship and deepen their connection. In this episode Amy, Mike and Laura talk about the importance of children depending on us, how all growth comes from psychological rest and how play can help us out when we are struggling with our caretaking provision. For more direct support with your child or young person, book a free chat with Laura Newman MSc. RCSLT, The Attachment Speechie,…

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   S1 · E12 · 13 Oct 2023 · 16 min

   What Children Need To Feel Our Connection

   Sometimes parenting can feel like a constant uphill struggle. Even when we try to connect with our children it can seem like it isn't landing within the hearts of our children or that the more we give, the more they need. In this episode Amy, Mike and Laura talk about connecting in a way that our children feel the connection and how to keep pursuing connecting moments even when we feel like we've got nothing left to give. For more direct support with your child or young person, book a free chat with Laura Newman MSc. RCSLT, The Attachment Speechie, at www.ReadySteadyConnect.com

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    S1 · E9 · 1 Oct 2023 · 17 min

    The conversations we have with Guest Speaker Lynne Kendall, The Resilience Tutor

    Conversations with our children come in all shapes and sizes. Our guest speaker Lynne Kendall, Educational Psychologist and Resilience Tutor from Australia, shines a light on those tricky conversations and how connection is key. Check out Lynne's parenting programmes at www.theresiliencetutor.co.au For more support with having connecting conversations with your children and avoiding those power struggles, contact Laura Newman MSc. RCSLT, The Attachment Speechie, at www.ReadySteadyConnect.com