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What to do with our childrens aggression, in all its forms and how can play help? We talk about using "I wonder..." to have empathic conversations with our children who display frustration. We discuss the kind of play which is 'escapism' and whether this is sometimes healthy and sometimes not. 'To fix or not to fix their behaviours'. A compliance-based approach tries to fix children. In contrast the LEAD approach is relational, child-led, and reflective. We reflect on what's missing, what's driving their behaviour and support the roots of their development, feeling safe and connected. For…
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Chasing The Connection
Laura Newman · Kids & Family · English
Helping caring parents and professional to find their LEAD in the relationship dance with troubled children and youth, laying the foundations for healing and development Our approach is based on developmental science, which puts relationships and emotional well-being at the heart of raising and sup
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