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In this episode, Dr. K reacts to a viral ADHD skit to break down what the internet frequently gets wrong about the condition. Moving beyond surface-level symptoms, he explains the neurobiology of time blindness, why high-stakes pressure paralyzes the neurodivergent mind, and how to actually build discipline by severing the link between action and impulsivity. What to expect in this episode: The Viral Assessment: A breakdown of a relatable skit covering tardiness, forgotten hobbies, and dead plants, and why focusing only on the struggles of ADHD ignores the nuance of how to actually fix them.…
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