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Judgment, Not Judgmental | Parenting Tools + Conversations That Support Moms in Raising Their Family... Their Way

by Rachel Lefebvre & Rosie Whinnery · English · Kids & Family

Shamey parenting energy is not welcome here. Judgment, Not Judgmental is the podcast for moms who know what they're doing and still — very much — lose it. Not solely venting, and not solely expert advice. More like if those two had a baby? It’s two parents choosing curiosity over criticism, cel

New episodes: Monthly
Typical length: 57 min
Latest: 22 Sep 2026
Language: English

Latest episode

22 Sep 2026 · 1 hr 3 min

"My Brain Is on Fire": Reading a Dysregulated Kid & Why Skills Beat Routines

This week Rachel and Rosie are both coming off brutal stretches: a dog's six-hour emergency surgery, bedtime meltdowns, and what do you do when your kid "I don't wanna talk anymore." We’d love to be tidy but just being honest… we did a lot of re-learning this week. your kid’s behavior while dysregulated can tell you a lot about next steps. In this episode, we chat about: • Why trying to teach a lesson mid-tantrum is a waste of your time and energy, and what to do instead • The real difference between "dysregulated" and "unregulated" (we looked it up live, and it was actually an “aha”) • The…

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S1 · 4 Jul 2026 · 59 min
You Didn't Fall In Love With A Dad: Loving Your Partner As A Person (Not Just A Co-Parent)
Rachel and Rosie talk about feuding with Jamie about baby cuddles until he check-mates her with argument using video game terminology, and how Aiden knows Rosie better than anyone as he supports her giving a stranger the Heimlich over a choked-on brat, and we love on the moms who understand that 8:30AM is the BEST playdate time. This is Rachel and Rosie's Father's Day dispatch on husbands — but really it's about loving your partner as a person, not just the parent they became after you had kids. In this episode, you can join the convo about: • Why "you didn't fall in love with a dad" is the…
S1 · 2 Jun 2026 · 1 hr 1 min
“First of All... Don’t Tell Me What To Do”: Relationship Repair & Emotional Regulation
Rachel and Rosie start with vocabulary words and somehow end up talking about ADHD, re-parenting, emotional regulation, and ChapStick. They discuss the question that immediately reduced tension with both a husband and a toddler, why parenting starts with exhaustion instead of expertise, and how a five-second pause can completely change a conversation. WHAT WE TALK ABOUT IN THIS EPISODE → why "I need you to be ready" landed so badly → the same relationship troubleshooting question working on both the husband and a toddler → what you're actually afraid of losing in moments of tension → why…
S1 · 5 May 2026 · 44 min
What to Say Instead of “What’s Wrong?”, Moving with Toddlers & The Tangents from Hiatus
Rachel and Rosie come back from a hiatus with moving chaos, flooded basements, tornado warnings, and a moment that ends in a dog bed surrounded by two giant dogs wondering why everyone needs to touch you at the exact same time—plus about twenty tangents (including literal math) that somehow still end up looping back around?? 🔍 WHAT WE’RE TALKING ABOUT IN THIS EPISODE → packing up your entire house while still living in it with kids, animals, and zero personal space → a toddler melting down over sleeves… that turns out to be about wanting her sister → “I don’t like where you put my bed” and…
S1 · 18 Mar 2026 · 57 min
“I Did the Hard Thing Because I’m a Parent”: One Last Thing vs. A 46-Minute Bath
Rachel and Rosie record this episode for the third time at 9:36pm. They talk about kids who take choking hazards very seriously, getting stuck in the kitchen with three animals and a baby grabbing your pants, and the audacity of being interrupted mid-thought. 🔗 LINKS & MENTIONS → Rachel’s Instagram : @regulatingwithrachel → January 9th post : “One Last Thing” concept → Allegra Cohen – Micro Joy Algorithm TED Talk → What To Do With Your Baby Every Day by Rachel Lefebvre → Paperback on Amazon → PDF + ASL posters 🤍 CONNECT WITH US → Instagram : @judgment_not_judgmental If this episode felt like…
S1 · 24 Feb 2026 · 52 min
“I Feel Like Nobody Is Taking Care of Me”: Disney World & The Mom Olympics
This episode starts as a Disney vacation recap and turns into a conversation about recalibrating expectations, repairing with your kids, saying yes on purpose, and the Olympic-level skills moms use every single day without getting a medal for any of it. What We’re Talking About in This Episode → what happens when your princess kid doesn’t like the princesses → “just take a picture” → the difference between your expectations and their experience → a 3-year-old saying, “I feel like nobody is taking care of me right now” → what it looks like when emotional regulation actually works in a chaotic…
S1 · 2 Feb 2026 · 44 min
Showing Up for Your Kids Without Ignoring What’s on Your Heart
In this episode, we talk about what it actually looks like to parent when the world feels like it’s on fire — not in theory, but in real time. We talk about the mental tug-of-war between staying informed and staying functional. About trying to show up for our kids while our brains are half somewhere else. About why “just ignoring it” doesn’t work — and why living in constant doom doesn’t either. This conversation goes the usual way — oscillating between grief, anger, fear, and empathy — and then we talk about cleaning sprays, screen time, sourdough, Disney movies, and honey toast. Not…
S1 · 15 Jan 2026 · 57 min
Puss in Boots Explains How to Achieve Parenting Goals Better Than Most Experts
Rachel turns parenting goals into a Shrek-universe map and makes Rosie answer uncomfortable (but useful) questions ( down below! ↓ ) about why it doesn’t feel like a straightforward field of flowers right now. This episode is about auditing your parenting terrain without turning it into a boring, clinical mess —and why the goal isn’t “no obstacles,” it’s fewer emotional threats at once. If getting on track with your goals feels harder to navigate than it should, this will help you see why. The big idea: You can’t make a meaningful change if you don’t know what you’re working with first. And…
S1 · 6 Jan 2026 · 58 min
7 Questions to Turn Holiday Exhaustion Into Momentum for YOUR Family in the New Year
The holidays leave a lot of information behind — if we don’t ignore it. In this episode, we talk through 7 questions we ask after the chaos settles to figure out what actually worked for our family… and what we don’t want to carry forward next time. Not to overanalyze — but to make things easier the next go around. Think of it like this: the exhaustion is data. And if we use it before it fades, it can shape better traditions, clearer expectations, and fewer “why do we do this every year?” moments. If you’re in that post-holiday fog but feel like there’s something worth keeping (or changing),…
S1 · 17 Dec 2025 · 52 min
Bonding with Mom Friends Without Making It Weird (Especially If You Don’t Know Where to Start)
In this episode, we talk about something that comes up all the time in our DMs and real-life conversations: mom friends. How to find them, why they matter so much, and why it can feel surprisingly vulnerable (and awkward) to even try. This conversation goes exactly where real mom conversations go — a little all over the place. We talk about library story hours, swim lessons, group chats that quietly change your postpartum experience, and the friendships that don’t look like a “group” but still end up being everything you need in a season. We also talk honestly about how weird it can feel to…
S1 · 9 Dec 2025 · 33 min
The Mental Load of the Holidays & The Big "Should We Have More Kids?" Conversation
Welcome to the very first episode of Judgment, Not Judgmental — the candid podcast where Rosie and Rachel talk about the things moms usually only talk about in the comfort of their best friend’s presence. In this debut conversation, your hosts dive straight into the two biggest themes dominating their lives right now: → the invisible mental load of the holidays and → the emotional, complicated “Should we have more kids?” conversation. They also open up about postpartum experiences, spiritual dreams that shaped their pregnancies, and navigating family gatherings with toddlers and babies. Grab…

About Judgment, Not Judgmental | Parenting Tools + Conversations That Support Moms in Raising Their Family... Their Way

Judgment, Not Judgmental | Parenting Tools + Conversations That Support Moms in Raising Their Family... Their Way is a English kids & family podcast from Rachel Lefebvre & Rosie Whinnery. Melo plays each episode straight from the publisher's own feed — no ads added, no account needed — and remembers where you stopped, in this browser only.

Publisher: Rachel Lefebvre & Rosie Whinnery
Language: English
Category: Kids & Family
New episodes: Monthly
Typical length: 57 min
Latest episode: 22 Sep 2026
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