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Why is it so important to feel needed? Do men struggle when their partner outshines them? How can personal growth destabilize a relationship? Paul and Eli dive off the deep end into the rich and melodramatic spectacle of the 2018 iteration of "A Star Is Born," featuring Bradley Cooper and Lady Gaga. For show notes, click here . Hosted, produced, and edited by Paul Eastwick and Eli Finkel . Music by Andrew Fraker and Sons Artwork by Katie Keil
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Love Factually
Paul Eastwick and Eli Finkel · Tech & Science · English
We're just two professors standing in front of a rom-com, asking it to be the subject of our podcast. Paul Eastwick and Eli Finkel explain what your favorite romantic films get right -- and wrong -- about the science of romance. Because it's time for scientists to take Ryan Gosling as seriousl
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