Season 1, Episode 140 · Not As We Planned
He Didn’t Forget My Birthday, He Ignored It
10 Jun 2026 · 45 min
Season 1, Episode 140 · Not As We Planned
10 Jun 2026 · 45 min
Tash opens up about her kids being around her boyfriend, the Snapchat message that wasn’t meant to be sent, when a break can help your relationship and the breadcrumbs that keep you there for too long Get tickets for our tour: https://www.aegpresents.co.uk/event/not-as-we-planned/ Watch the podcast on YouTube Get a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon : Join Our Community Instagram TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
by Tash Gershfield & Carly Harris · English · Kids & Family
New episodes every Thursday, with exclusive bonus episodes every Monday on Patreon. Welcome to Not As We Planned, the honest podcast about relationships, dating, marriage, divorce and motherhood, and all the things no one really talks about. From becoming a mum and navigating divorce, to rebuildin
S1 · E143 · 1 Jul 2026 · 52 min
She thought she’d finally found her happy ending. After blending their families and welcoming a new baby together, everything seemed perfect… until she discovered the man she loved had been living a shocking double life. This week, we read one of the most unbelievable stories we’ve ever received, hear from a listener trapped in a controlling relationship after 12 years together, and discuss why your gut instinct is often trying to protect you long before your mind catches up. Watch the podcast on YouTube Get a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon : Join Our Community Instagram TikTok Hosted on…
S1 · E142 · 24 Jun 2026 · 38 min
He disappeared without a word for five weeks… then came back expecting another chance. This week, Carly opens up about the emotional reality of co-parenting, we help a listener decide whether she’s holding on to someone’s potential instead of who they really are, hear from a woman who discovered her partner’s affair while she was eight months pregnant, and ask one very satisfying question… what happens when your cheating ex gets cheated on? Watch the podcast on YouTube Get a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon : Join Our Community Instagram TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more…
S1 · E141 · 17 Jun 2026 · 40 min
A listener discovers that her husband’s entire life was a lie. After 14 years together, two children and what seemed like the perfect marriage, one tiny clue unravels everything. We also hear about a disastrous date involving a murder trial, review another Hinge profile, and help a listener decide whether to break no contact with the woman he can’t stop thinking about. Get tickets for our tour: https://www.aegpresents.co.uk/event/not-as-we-planned Watch the podcast on YouTube Get a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon : Join Our Community Instagram TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy…
S1 · E139 · 3 Jun 2026 · 38 min
Carly opens up about her grief, a story that will remind you that kids really do absorb the environment they are in and after 20 years together he left his wife for a man. Watch the podcast on YouTube Get a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon : Join Our Community Instagram TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 · E138 · 27 May 2026 · 48 min
You share the sluttiest things you’ve ever done, we give feedback on the first Hinge profile you’ve sent in, the separation after 20 years and the long-term emotional affair found out on Snapchat! Get tickets for our tour: https://www.aegpresents.co.uk/event/not-as-we-planned/ Watch the podcast on YouTube Get a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon : Join Our Community Instagram TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 · E137 · 21 May 2026 · 51 min
We hear about a relationship where HE never wants to have sex, how drugs and alchohol ruined a relationship and wondering why you're always the one who's dumped. Watch the podcast on YouTube Get a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon : Join Our Community Instagram TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 · E157 · 7 Oct 2026 · 42 min
Imagine receiving a letter and discovering your husband has a 16-year-old son you knew absolutely nothing about. One listener had spent years believing his version of how a previous relationship ended, only for a child-support letter to reveal the truth. Now she’s trying to process the fact that her husband kept an entire child secret from her, while working out how they eventually tell their own 10 and 8-year-old children that they have an older brother. And the biggest question is: after a lie this big, how do you ever trust someone again? We also hear from a gay listener who’s been…
S1 · E156 · 30 Sep 2026 · 40 min
One Bestie has a confession she never thought she’d be making: she’s the other woman. What started with a work colleague who has a long-term partner and two children has turned into a year-long affair, and now they’ve both admitted they have feelings for each other. She knows what they’re doing is wrong and desperately wants to end it, but there’s one major problem: she still has to see him at work. So how do you walk away from someone you’ve fallen for when you can’t completely remove them from your life? Then, for the first time, we hear the other side from a male listener who fell deeply…
S1 · E155 · 23 Sep 2026 · 1 hr 5 min
Carly is back with a new nose! After years of feeling insecure about it, she finally flew to Turkey alone for the nose job she’d wanted for years. She opens up about why she decided to do it, the panic that hit before surgery, the mental battle during recovery and what it was really like seeing her new face for the first time. We also get very honest about the financial reality of becoming a single parent, the pressure of trying to keep up a lifestyle that was originally built on two incomes, and why single mums can so often feel forgotten. Plus, one Bestie shares the story of spending 15…
S1 · E154 · 16 Sep 2026 · 37 min
Three weeks after giving birth, one Bestie woke in the middle of the night panicking that she’d missed an alarm to feed her newborn. She couldn’t find her own phone, so she picked up her husband’s to check the time… and messages from another woman appeared on the screen. She was still bleeding, wearing a postpartum nappy and caring for their two tiny children when she discovered her husband had been having an affair with a woman they both worked with, and it had been going on for months. This week we also hear from a woman whose boyfriend kissed someone on a night out, came home and abruptly…