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Pretty Lonesome with Madeline Argy

Feeling lonely in your 20’s is to be expected... but, Madeline Argy feels it’s better to be alone, together. From her bed, car or wherever she’s alone that week, Madeline explores the unspoken conversations we all have with ourselves, but are too afraid to speak out loud. She discusses a wide range

New episodes: Weekly
Typical length: 47 min
Latest: 4 Sep 2026
Language: English

Latest episode

4 Sep 2026 · 49 min

why i'm not scared of being perceived anymore

this week i talk about friendship, outgrowing people, and why sometimes the person you're actually trying to get away from is an old version of yourself. i get into friendships ending without closure, being terrified of rejection, and the fact that our perception of ourselves might be completely wrong. sometimes being afraid of how someone will perceive you often reveals more about how you already perceive yourself than what they're actually thinking. basically maybe no one knows what they're looking at, including you. enjoy love u

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E109 · 28 Aug 2026 · 51 min
making female friendships? // EP 109
this week i talk about friendship and why making friends in your 20s feels so fucking complicated. i get into wanting a friend group for basically the first time in my life, the difference between attracting chaotic people and actually choosing to keep them around, and why someone feeling instantly familiar isn't always a good sign. turns out feeling like home and actually being safe might be two completely different things. enjoy love u
E108 · 14 Aug 2026 · 54 min
How To Cope As A Useless Lonely Rat
enjoy love u
E107 · 31 Jul 2026 · 1 hr 17 min
why i stopped obsessing over people
this week i talk about why i've slowly stopped centering romance without really meaning to. i get into having crushes as a way of filling an emotional void, where all that obsessive energy actually comes from, and why i've started redirecting it back into my own life instead. we also talk about purpose, learning for the sake of learning, language, fear, and the weird realization that maybe the things we chase in other people have been inside us the whole time. enjoy love u
E106 · 17 Jul 2026 · 47 min
i have control issues
this week i come to the recent realization that i have control issues, which is deeply inconvenient because i genuinely thought i was one of the least controlling people. i get into the difference between trying to control other people and trying to control yourself, why fear makes certainty feel so comforting, and how i slowly realized i've been mistaking reassurance for safety. we also talk about how it relates to OCD and emetophobia, trusting your own judgment after people let you down, and why i keep sending myself to the metaphorical dungeon every time life surprises me. turns out maybe…
E105 · 19 Jun 2026 · 47 min
sex and the power of saying no
this week i talk about why saying no has always been so hard for me and what it’s cost me. i get into abstinence, therapy, relationships, and this pattern of changing yourself to fit other people's expectations. I talk about self-betrayal, the shame of staying in things too long, and why forgiving yourself for what you tolerated might be the only way to actually move on. also a quick recap of Euphoria and why i think it lost the plot. enjoy love u
E104 · 29 May 2026 · 41 min
chase your fears
this week i talk about moving to new york, feeling completely untethered, and what happens when you finally reach the version of life you always imagined for yourself and realize you still have no clue what comes next. i get into fear, uncertainty, why i think some of the best things in my life came from periods where i felt the most lost, and this idea of chasing your fears instead of spending your whole life running from them. we also talk about heartbreak as redirection, manifesting feelings instead of goals, and why younger you doesn’t always get to decide the rest of your life for you.…
E103 · 22 May 2026 · 54 min
yapping with flowerovlove!
this week I am joined by joyce and we talk about how we became friends, the weirdness of fashion week, missing flights because of heartbreak, dropping out of school, situationships that should’ve ended six months earlier, and why having a crush is sometimes just projecting an entire personality onto a man who barely exists. we also get into dick print analysis, emetophobia, celibacy, coachella anxiety, and whether love is actually about the person or just the feeling itself, so really this girl chat episode has it all! enjoy love u
E102 · 24 Apr 2026 · 52 min
grace and forgiveness
this week i talk about grace, forgiveness, and why i don’t think they’re the same thing at all. i get into this idea that forgiveness is supposed to mean you’re healed, and how that never really made sense to me because i can understand someone, even feel compassion for them, and still be hurt by what they did. i talk about trying to intellectualize my way out of pain, why that doesn’t work, and the moment i realized i’ve been giving everyone else space to be human but not myself. this one’s about letting both things exist at once, peace without pretending, compassion without…
E101 · 27 Mar 2026 · 38 min
dinosaurs and dictatorships
From dinosaur documentaries to a TSA encounter that became an analogy for friendship, this week's episode helped me understand that everything is kind of a projection. i talk about living out of a suitcase, missing my flight, and falling down a rabbit hole of evolution, extinction, and how nothing we think is permanent actually is. then i get into people, why we get so triggered by certain traits in others, and how most of what we feel is just a reflection of something in us. this one is really about detachment, perspective, and realizing not everything is as personal as it feels. as always,…
E100 · 20 Mar 2026 · 27 min
the power of choice
guys we are still so back. Ep 100! love u Link to TikTok: https://vm.tiktok.com/ZNR9oqvVS/
E99 · 6 Mar 2026 · 44 min
the danger of seeing the good in people
we’re back with another advice session from your submissions and this week we talk about toxic relationships, trauma bonds, and the danger of seeing the good in people who consistently hurt you. i get into why bad relationships can feel impossible to leave, why it sometimes feels like the person who hurt you “wins,” and how compassion can slowly turn into self-betrayal if you’re not careful. we also talk about boundaries, self-honor, and the difference between loving someone and sacrificing yourself for them. this one is about protecting your heart without losing your ability to love. love u…
E98 · 27 Feb 2026 · 43 min
discipline and trusting yourself
exciting new announcement this week and life updates that made me think more about discipline and how I want to learn to trust myself again. recently a lot has come up around trying to outrun old versions of myself and realizing that change doesn't always leave your bad habits behind. i talk about living in my head like it’s a courtroom, why overthinking feels like control, and how doing the small things really matter: drinking water, making the bed, keeping small promises, and calling your energy back. this one’s about rebuilding trust with myself in the tiniest ways possible and betting on…
E97 · 23 Jan 2026 · 38 min
my betrayal list
presenting: my betrayal list. we also go through your submitted resolutions for 2026 and how they align with mine as well. i talk about the small things that let me down this year, why they stuck with me, and how disappointment builds quietly when you don’t name it. figuring out my ins and outs for 2026 kind of helped me learn where my energy actually belongs. enjoy love u
E96 · 16 Jan 2026 · 43 min
2025 debrief with photos // EP 96
this week i do something a bit different. i go through my camera roll month by month and randomly pick photos from the last year, then explain what was actually happening behind each one. some are funny, some are embarrassing, some are way heavier than they look. it turns into a kind of accidental debrief of 2025, how much i hid, what i avoided talking about, and what all those moments say about shame, alignment, and letting things exist without rewriting them. it’s less of a resolution episode and more of a chance to let you in to the moments I didn't really show you guys but wish I did,…
E95 · 26 Dec 2025 · 1 hr 27 min
advice session 4
we're back with another advice session from your submissions and we talk about girl code, betrayal, and what happens when you do something that doesn’t sit right in your body. i get into female friendships, dating your friend’s ex, why shame hits harder when it comes from other women, and how easy it is to spiral into thinking you’re a bad person instead of a human who made a mistake. we also get into jealousy, moral alignment, male validation, and why doing the wrong thing once doesn’t define who you are forever. this one is about compassion, accountability, and learning who you are by…
E94 · 12 Dec 2025 · 47 min
romanticizing being alone
this week i talk about going quiet for a while and what happens when life forces you to slow down and sit with yourself. i get into my fear of being seen alone, why that feeling has followed me since i was a kid, and how i finally stopped letting it dictate my choices. i talk about traveling by myself, meeting strangers, creative block, curiosity, and relearning how to enjoy my own company without shame. it’s about trusting your instincts, romanticizing the in between moments, and realizing that being alone doesn’t mean you’re lacking anything. enjoy love u
E93 · 31 Oct 2025 · 49 min
How to change ur reality
this week i talk about how to change your reality when you feel stuck, uninspired, or like you’re living the wrong life. i get into what it means to lose your spark, how to start believing in yourself again, and why sometimes the smallest changes—a different route to work, a new song, a stupid hat—can shift everything. i also talk about self-sabotage, fear of success, and how courage is usually just being scared and doing it anyway. love u guys
E92 · 24 Oct 2025 · 46 min
why do u feel unlovable
this week i talk about what it means to actually sit down with the voices in your head instead of just pretending they don’t exist. i get into jealousy, shame, why validation from other people never really fixes anything, and the way we convince ourselves we’re unlovable for the dumbest reasons. i also share what it felt like to disappear for a month, why my ego has a fuck ass bob, and how noticing the scary stuff might be the only way through. enjoy, missed u
E91 · 26 Sep 2025 · 58 min
love vs. limerence
I'm done spreading propaganda this week. I love you guys
E90 · 19 Sep 2025 · 43 min
how to rage bait a man
this week i talk about rage baiting men and how it’s actually one of the most efficient ways to figure out who you’re dealing with. i get into the subtle ways misogyny shows up in everyday life, how to use small questions and jokes to poke at fragile egos, and why “i know” might be the most dangerous thing you can say back to a compliment. we also talk male validation, internet rabbit holes, and the false sense of safety we get from assuming “he was raised by a woman” means anything at all. no one is exempt, so let’s have some fun testing them. enjoy love u
E89 · 12 Sep 2025 · 40 min
betrayal in my girl interrupted era
this week i talk about betrayal and how it never stops catching me off guard, no matter how much i think i’ve prepared myself for it. i get into the way it rewires your nervous system like a mf-ing xmas tree, how it lingers in the body, and why it feels harder to let go of than sadness. i also share how i’ve handled it differently this time, and what it means to finally let myself feel anger. enjoy love u
E88 · 22 Aug 2025 · 1 hr 44 min
Fletcher
fletcher is here this week and we talk about what it means to write honestly about the people you’ve loved and sometimes lost and how terrifying it feels to put those stories into the world when everyone thinks they know who your songs are about we get into queerness and music as a home for it the way her new album holds both heartbreak and joy at the same time and why telling the truth can be the most freeing thing even when it makes you want to hide under your bed i also ask if she ever regrets being so raw in her lyrics and she reminds me that there’s power in being messy and human. enjoy…
E87 · 15 Aug 2025 · 47 min
Lesbian masterdoc
before i get into the lesbian master doc, i would be remiss not to acknowledge belly betraying herself and rage baiting the audience, jeremiah’s weird possessiveness, and why conrad’s distance was love disguised as avoidance. then it’s onto compulsory heterosexuality, how liking gay or fictional men is safer, and why attraction doesn’t always mean action. also: how society makes us confuse friendship with crushes and why i hate that every guy friend would still sleep with you. welcome to my dissertation!
E86 · 8 Aug 2025 · 1 hr 2 min
Stop breastfeeding ur boyfriend
i was supposed to talk about female friendships in this episode but instead i spiral about the summer i turned pretty the rise of ai and why your boyfriend is not your son and shouldn’t be your only friend like why are you breastfeeding him emotionally get a grip we get into man keeping, how jeremiah is actually asking laurel to be his mum and the way laurel carries the weight of everyone’s grief while being the only one with a brain also i accidentally solve the education system and consider letting ai chip my brain so i can go live in a mouse house under a tree. Enjoy love u
E85 · 1 Aug 2025 · 47 min
Fighting my nicotine demon and the summer I turned pretty
I spent a week withdrawing from vyvanse, nicotine and caffeine all at the same time and this episode is the result of that. Enjoy
E84 · 25 Jul 2025 · 36 min
advice session 3
this week I am talking about your stories and questions that you wrote in by unraveling a truly unhinged advice email about a boy who numbers his sexual partners (yes, literally gives them numbers), has a thing for helicopters (???), and ghosted a listener after prom. we also get into what real friendship looks like (spoiler: it’s not telling you to “do it for the plot”), how to move on from villains you dated, and unexplored queerness in committed relationships. loved getting to yap with you after 3 days in the desert
E83 · 18 Jul 2025 · 41 min
everyone is lying about their lore and I have an ant infestation
this week I am grappling with ants in my pillows, getting rage baited by my landlord and the idea that the stories you tell yourself about your past form your ‘life story’, therefore your perception of yourself and therefore the behaviour of your future self. and what if we can re write the past and nothing is concrete and we can change things we have previously accepted as true about ourselves by a shift in perspective? like what if our past is up for grabs? filmed at a very stupid hour, I once again missed half the points I wanted to make so maybe ill do a part two on this subject but…
E82 · 11 Jul 2025 · 42 min
i threw up with emetophobia and also it’s my birthday
I threw up for the first time since developing emetophobia over ten years ago light trigger warning for people who are very sensitive - nothing gross is mentioned, verbiage only what’s in title and description, and I mostly discuss the emotional impact and how I processed the experience additionally, I filmed this episode in my birthday and dove into why I fear aging so much while also being so young and how I turned my mindset into a more positive one so I could stop crashing out and enjoy the best day of the year
E81 · 4 Jul 2025 · 47 min
1 mil subscribers + my ego
talking about how i got started on youtube and how weird of a time that was and how i found my team. and then about the ego and how I recently discovered that isn’t just a bad word to use for people with an inflated sense of self but actually an important and useful part of us all

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Pretty Lonesome with Madeline Argy is a English society & culture podcast from Unwell. Melo plays each episode straight from the publisher's own feed — no ads added, no account needed — and remembers where you stopped, in this browser only.

Publisher: Unwell
Language: English
Category: Society & Culture
New episodes: Weekly
Typical length: 47 min
Latest episode: 4 Sep 2026
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