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A man has been together with his boyfriend for 10 years. The caller works long hard hours and values peace and quiet when he comes home. But his boyfriend works from home all day and pounces on his husband, wanting to chat and interact. Dan was in a similar situation, but don't tell Dan's husband how he dealt with it. A divorced woman with children has been dating a man. Both are in open relationships, and he wears a wedding ring. Her kids don't yet know about ethical non-monogamy and her family disapproves, making this year's Rosh Hashanah dinner extra spicy. Our guest is the intrepid…
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