Dan Savage, America's only advice columnist, answers your sex and relationship questions and yaps about politics. To record a question for Dan to be answered in a later podcast, record your question and send it to Q@Savage.Love, or call 206-302-2064. For a much longer version of the show, with no ad
A gay man in his 60s is perplexed about foot fetishes, and what is so damn sexy about his feet. A man is frustrated by the concept of "false positives" when he tests for herpes. What on earth is going on here? Dan brings on the delightful and calming Dr. Ina Park to explain the whole testing situation. On the Magnum, it's a bisexuality brawl with sex therapist Claire Perelman! Dan and Claire talk about the bisexual's plight in dating, and how to overcome the stigma. And a gay man and his boyfriend are moving in together. The boyfriend owns his apartment and asks the caller to pitch in toward…
What's in the duffel bag? On her vacation to Bali, she hooked up with a hot, rich dude with a glass house in the jungle. But, what tricks did he have up his sleeve? After a bad experience at home, Julia had a re-discovery of her best sexual self. Have a listen. And then send us your story! Q@Savage.Love This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit VB.Health when you use the code Savage.
We begin the show...drunkenly. A lit lady enjoys the sensation of touching ears. Room temperature, or slightly chilled. Not too cold. But "ear porn?" Is that a thing? A lucky fella won a three-month free entry to his local bathhouse. Whatever should he do when he's in there? Our guest this week is Allen Sulkin, creator of the new podcast "Gerbil." He and Dan analyze the persistence of the insane sex myth that you've probably heard about. Do people still believe it? They go into the dark motivations that allowed such a preposterous rumor to live on and on. Gerbil is out now, and you should…
Just how polite are Canadians? Meet Owen, a Canuck whose good manners went above and beyond when he visited the red light district in Amsterdam. Name a lake after this guy! Tell us your story, right away!Send it to Q@Savage.Love This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit VB.Health when you use the code Savage.
Grapefruiting! It's a new sex act involving fruit! Can *any* word be verbed? Apparently! A woman wonders how anyone can successfully fake an orgasm, when the physical contractions should be noticeably felt. On the Magnum, Dan brings on a guest to definitively answer the question you all have: How long must you wait to masturbate after you've had a heart attack? Dr. Eugene Fan is a cardiologist with nothing but good news for you horndogs. As long as your heart is beating, you can beat off. He and Dan discuss a couple of heart health issues with the charming and reassuring Dr. Fan. And, is…
No words exchanged. He lying in a hotel bed. She enters and just watches. It was their first and only date. Rachel’s story proves that scheduled sex most certainly CAN be hot. Hear her story, get turned on. If YOU have a delicious tale to tell, write it down and send it in to Q@Savage.Love. This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit VB.Health when you use the code Savage. This episode is brought to you by Lean- a weight loss supplement that works by lowering…
Bummer! A man had just met with a male-female couple who wanted him to take part in a kinky three-way. But when he confessed that he sometimes has trouble coming, they cancelled. Can he train himself to blow a load? Need he? Speaking of loads, a woman credits her beautiful, supple skin to the facial treatments her husband obligingly administers. Can this be true? Any dermatologists care to weigh in? On the Magnum, Dan chats with filmmaker, actor and fetish content creator Julian Shaw. He wrote and directed the thriller Use Me, co-directs the documentary Acting Hard, and is the subject of Cam…
Meet Tom who went on a very special vacation with his girlfriend. Packing checklist: Kink outfits Consent Form Waste bag How did it go? You'll find out. Send us your stories, your wonderful stories! Q@Savage.Love This episode is brought to you by Dipsea: an app full of hundreds of short, sexy audio stories designed by women for women. Get an extended 30 day free trial plus 25% off an annual subscription when you go to dipseastories.com/savage. This episode is brought to you by Lean- a weight loss supplement that works by lowering blood sugar and reducing appetite.If you have 10 or more…
A man has been together with his boyfriend for 10 years. The caller works long hard hours and values peace and quiet when he comes home. But his boyfriend works from home all day and pounces on his husband, wanting to chat and interact. Dan was in a similar situation, but don't tell Dan's husband how he dealt with it. A divorced woman with children has been dating a man. Both are in open relationships, and he wears a wedding ring. Her kids don't yet know about ethical non-monogamy and her family disapproves, making this year's Rosh Hashanah dinner extra spicy. Our guest is the intrepid…
Cat started a sex toy company, so she had to come out as kinky to friends and family. What she didn’t expect was the stampede of her mother’s boomer friends asking for product… Do you have a story of something you tried that was like, so embarrassing??!!Let us hear it: Q@Savage.Love This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit VB.Health when you use the code Savage.
Any military lawyers in the house? A gay man and his boyfriend, both serving active duty, want to open their relationship. But infidelity is forbidden by military law. How risky would this be? Now that chastity play its all the rage, should we assume that a key necklace means something deeply kinky? And if so, should we knowingly wink when we see one? Sex/science nerds rejoice! Our Magnum guest this week is Distinguished Research Professor Dr. Lixing Sun, who wrote On the Origin of Sex. Dan and Dr. Sun discuss the deep biological underpinnings of sex: when and why did pleasure emerge in…
Hey Everybody! Meet Jay- a pan, poly furry who, along with 15 other queer furries, met up for a "kink tasting, orgy event." What goes on at kink cabin? We won't say here, but please know that an inflatable horse costume was involved. Also, Dan brings a much needed Marxist interrogation to the story. If you have a tale to share, write it up and send it in to Q@Savage.Love
A gay, married couple journeyed to Montreal to enjoy the services of a tantric masseur. And they REALLY enjoyed him. But did this open Pandora's box? How can they continue to have earth-shattering, mind-blowing sex when it's back to the hum-drum two of them? A caller wonders if folks who enjoy adult baby play actually... well, actually shit themselves. The answer comes from Dan's guest, Fancy of the InTheNook podcast. The show champions "nuance, kink-positive education, and unfiltered queer realness" for those into ABDL. They have a great conversation about what fuels this maligned kink. On…
After 22 years of marriage, well, it was just time. Hear Trix’s story about writing, filming and performing in her “queer adoring gang bang” story. And how she feels about the possibility of her kids stumbling across it one day. How have YOU kept your marriage fresh? Tell us a story at Q@Savage.Love This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit VB.Health when you use the code Savage.
As this is a wholesome, family-focused show, we bookend the episode with parenting questions. First, a woman's 5 year-old nephew wants to wear a padlock around his neck. He saw this on a stranger in a grocery store and thought it looked cool. Should they let him? And last, when your five year old asks "What is sex?" What should you say? Our guest is the incomparable Jane Don't! The break out star of Season 18 of Ru Paul's drag race is here to talk about her upcoming tour, her Miss Congeniality role on Drag Race, growing up gay in a small town, and her abiding love for drag. She and Dan dish…
Jade is normally a sub with her husband. But when she inserted the sounding rod into his urethra, did she really feel submissive? Really? It’s a journey… Tell us all about your novel erotic transgressions.Q@Savage.Love This episode is brought to you by Lean- a weight loss supplement that works by lowering blood sugar and reducing appetite.If you have 10 or more pounds to lose, get started with 20% off and free rush shipping. Visit TakeLean.com and enter SAVAGE for your discount. This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load…
Sex & Politics #46 Can we really change? Welcome to Sex & Politics!For this bonus episode, Dan chatted with Benoit Denizet-Lewis, an associate professor at Emerson College, a longtime contributing writer for The New York Times Magazine, and the author, most recently, of “You’ve Changed: The Promise and Price of Self-Transformation.” He and Dan talked about the various ways people can change- how prisoners who have the possibility of parole can improve themselves and prove they’ve done so. They talk about the ex-gay movement, specifically Michael Glatze, who went from gay activist to anti-gay…
A woman in her 60s has a husband who is into feet. She's planning to get a professional foot massage. Can he come along and watch if he promises to hide his boner? A woman has a boyfriend who provides financial security and perfectly fine sex. But she finds him so very dull. Is a comfortable but boring relationship enough? On the Magnum, meet comedian, filmmaker and avowed cuck queen Edy Modica. She and Dan talk about her brilliant performance on Jury Duty, and in her personal life, how she eroticizes jealousy. Then, they take a call from a woman whose boyfriend wants her to put whipped…
What’s it like for a trans man at a gay leather convention?Listen and you will find out… Tell us about your brave excursion. Write about your experience and send it to Dan: Q@Savage.Love This episode is brought to you by Feeld- the dating app that so many Lovecast listeners are already using. Try Feeld’s new feature “Reflections” now by visiting feeld.co/reflections or by downloading Feeld on the App Store or Google Play.
Her friend's new girlfriend stinks to high heaven. Is this intentional? Is it a kink? What would be the polite way to ask her to wash up? A woman with super-high libido is trying to convince her husband to have a three-way with another woman. But he doesn't wanna. How can she convince him to do the thing that many straight men would kill for? On the Magnum, a woman is being drawn in to more and more extreme porn. Now she needs the really intense stuff to get off. Dan discusses this with professor of clinical psychology Dr. Eric Sprankle who has literally written the book on masturbation.…
“He had a kiddy pool set up by the time we were there…” Meet Abe, who finally got to *immerse* himself in the world of gunge.You haven’t heard of gunge, you say? Simply press play. If you had a sexual experience that called for a LOT of logistics, write about it and send us the details toQ@Savage.Love. This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit VB.Health when you use the code Savage.
An intersex man had his urethra operated on when he was a toddler. Now he wants to try sounding but his doctors advise against it. He is suspicious of doctors after his non-consensual surgeries. Should he ignore them and pursue his pleasure? A 66 year-old woman loves to give blow jobs to her lucky husband. But sometimes she gets a bit too enthusiastic and ends up with bruises on her lip. Will people see them and know how she got them? On the Magnum, have you ever slept with a clown? Meet Barney Muckle, a British kinkster who has turned clowning into an awesome fetish. He and Dan talk about…
Monica is a tried and true, old school Magnum sub. With Dan’s advice in her head, she applied to join a “foot night” where men pay to play…with women’s feet. Did Monica have a good time?What did she wear?And exactly how much money did she make? All is revealed. If you have an experience you enjoyed or endured, write about it, and send it to us at Q@Savage.Love. This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit VB.Health when you use the code Savage.
Ouch! A woman has been fisting her boyfriend to both of their delight. But guess what hurts: Her hand! How can she get in there comfortably? A woman is trying to convince both her conspiracy-minded friend and her wife that ultra rich people are not really eating babies. Because...they aren't...right? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Stephen Dubner - host of Freakonomics Radio. His new show, Better in Person, explores how conversations flow when people are in the room together. Dan and Stephen talk about the new show, and dig in to assumptions around long term relationships. And, a woman was…
In one of the more graphic After Action Reports we’ve had the pleasure to relay, hear Mary’s story not of getting peed ON, but getting peed IN. Don’t worry. She has a “robust vagina.” Do YOU have anything robust about you?Send us the details to Q@Savage.Love. This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit VB.Health when you use the code Savage.
A lesbian with a pregnant wife is confounded and disgruntled at the way Pride celebrations can be a little too sex positive, especially if you have a little kid. Should Pride parades put on a straight-laced appearance, or go full bacchanal? It's an old, old debate. A woman needs her lovers to tell her she's hot and generally praise her during sex. Like, a lot. Is this a kink? On the Magnum, Dan meets his witty, homosexual match in Bryan Safi. The Emmy Award-winning actor, writer, and comedian known for his work on ABC’s “9-1-1” as well as his podcasts, Attitudes! and Ask Ronna, is making his…
Have you ever bitten a dick? Like really hard?NO YOU HAVE NOT.She did. And he liked it. Listen in. If you’ve done something…shocking, and you want to tell us about it, send the details to Q@Savage.Love. This episode is brought to you by Feeld- the dating app that so many Lovecast listeners are already using. Try Feeld’s new feature “Reflections” now by visiting feeld.co/reflections or by downloading Feeld on the App Store or Google Play.
A man in a poly relationship is worried that his penis smells like his girlfriend's vagina despite his meticulous hygiene practices. This doesn't bother him. But when he eventually convinces someone else to go down on him, will they notice? Is there a "special soap" he could use? In Paris, in the year 1911, an employee of the Louvre made off with the Mona Lisa. Fast forward to the year 2024. A woman "acquired" an explicit erotic painting left behind in an office re-organization featuring two men who live above the space. After 2 years of it hanging on her wall, she really loves this…
Did you know that they have bathhouses in Canada? They do!Meet Jay, married to his husband for 10 years, and ready for adventure.Even though he was nervous and his glasses kept fogging up, he persevered. Hear all about it. If you have a story to share, write to us at Q@Savage.Love. This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit VB.Health when you use the code Savage.
A woman's hot boyfriend is being harassed by his upstairs neighbor who has come up with a novel way to summon him to his door. Our first guest is GI physician and friend of the show Dr. Carlton Thomas. He is on to answer a question about NEW DOUCHING TECHNOLOGY. On the Magnum, a newly single woman is howling at the moon with insatiably high libido. She's annoyed with apps and parties and wonders if she should just hire a sex worker already. Dan chatted with "Love Coach," podcast host and former sex worker Shaun Galanos about her options. Finally, a man has just had prostate surgery. His…
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