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for the woman who has always been the reliable one. the one who shows up, gives everything, and somehow still ends up last on her own list — without being able to explain why. this video is the explanation. and the way out. there is a system built into friendships, families, relationships, and culture itself that keeps women small. it does not announce itself loudly. it uses guilt, shame, and a single word to ensure you never fully choose yourself. this video dismantles it completely. we cover the cultural mechanism behind why women are punished for self-prioritisation, the exact patterns…
Self Obsessed
by Tam Kaur · English · Learning
Tam Kaur’s Self-Obsessed is the ultimate guide to everything society didn’t want you to learn. In a world where women are criticised for wanting and being ‘too much’ it's time to change the narrative. Join our host Tam in learning how to be self-obsessed. After all, it’s only about prioritising your
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