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Self Obsessed

New episodes: Weekly
Typical length: 22 min
Latest: 28 Sep 2026
Language: English

Latest episode

28 Sep 2026 · 24 min

everything I wish I knew before 25

[ad] Text CHECK to 82228 to sign up for CoppaFeel!’s free monthly text reminder service, and they’ll remind you to check your chest every month. PRE ORDER MY PRODUCTIVITY JOURNAL your early 20s can feel like you’re supposed to have your entire life figured out, but ages 20–25 are really about building the foundation for the woman you’re becoming. in this video, i’m sharing 7 lessons that completely changed the way i approach my life, from learning to trust yourself without constantly seeking approval to releasing the pressure to always know what comes next. your 20s aren’t about getting…

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4 Sep 2026 · 20 min

5 steps to Manifest Your Dream Partner in a Self-Obsessed Way

[ad] Text CHECK to 82228 to sign up for CoppaFeel!’s free monthly text reminder service, and they’ll remind you to check your chest every month. PRE-ORDER MY PRODUCTIVITY JOURNAL manifesting true love can feel like it’s all about finding the right person, but the healthiest relationships begin with the relationship you have with yourself. in this video, i’m sharing my 5-step self-obsessed guide to manifesting the kind of love you actually deserve. we’ll talk about strengthening your self-concept, becoming the partner you hope to attract, healing unhealthy attachment patterns, setting…
28 Aug 2026 · 17 min

watch this before you go back to school for confidence [pep talk]

going back to school or university can feel like the perfect opportunity to reinvent yourself, but real confidence starts with changing how you see yourself. in this video, i’m sharing 8 mindset shifts that will help you stop living through other people’s opinions and start making choices based on the person you actually want to become. we’ll talk about how to stop chasing validation, handle rejection without letting it define you, intentionally build a new identity through your actions, and so much more. you only get this chapter of your life once, so don’t let insecurity or fear decide how…
21 Aug 2026 · 13 min

watch this when you feel behind in life | comparison, self-doubt, and finding your own path

feeling like everyone else is moving forward while you’re falling behind in life? i’ve been there. in this video, i’m sharing 10 reassuring facts and mindset shifts to help you stop comparing yourself to others and trust your own timeline. we’ll talk about navigating self-doubt, letting go of the pressure to have it all figured out, and finding your own path. whether you’re questioning your progress or grieving where you thought you’d be by now, this is your reminder that you’re not behind—you’re building a life that actually feels right for you. BOOK JOURNAL WEBSITE PODCAST VLOGS INSTAGRAM…
5 Aug 2026 · 29 min

MID YEAR RESET 2026: the 1% plan to become unrecognisable in 6 months

if you've been waiting for a sign to reset your life, let this be it. the middle of the year is one of the most powerful times to pause and reflect because you still have enough time to completely change how this year ends. in this video, we'll talk about what a true mid-year reset actually looks like and why the second half of the year can completely change the direction of the first. from letting go of what no longer serves you to being more intentional with your time, energy, attention, and money, this is about creating a life that feels aligned with the person you're becoming. because…
24 Jul 2026 · 23 min

mastering your self-concept is the answer to your desires

if you've ever felt invisible, believed you were "just shy," or convinced yourself that confidence was something other people were born with, this conversation is for you. we explore why your self-concept is the foundation of every change you want to make, and how the identity you've carried for years may be quietly shaping your reality without you even realizing it. when you stop using your past as proof of who you are, you create the space to become someone new. confidence isn't something you wait to feel—it's something you begin to embody the moment you choose a different story about…
17 Jul 2026 · 16 min

why are women getting dumber on purpose?

if you've ever caught yourself saying "i'm just a girl," embracing girl math or girl dinner, or believing that helplessness is part of being feminine, this conversation is for you. we explore how the identities you repeat shape your self-concept, confidence, and self-worth, and why social media trends can quietly reinforce limiting beliefs. true confidence isn't about playing small or pretending you don't know something. it's built through emotional intelligence, financial independence, and becoming a woman who trusts herself. so, it's time to stop shrinking and start building a life rooted…
9 Jul 2026 · 12 min

why undeserving people always seem to succeed

if they could do it without the credentials, the only thing standing between you and that outcome is not capability, it is belief. if you've ever wondered why people with less experience or fewer qualifications are achieving the success you want, this video is for you. we explore how your self-concept, confidence, and self-worth shape your reality, why comparison on social media fuels scarcity and limiting beliefs, and how jealousy can reveal what you truly desire. it's time to overcome imposter syndrome, build genuine confidence, develop an abundance mindset, and create success on your own…
29 Jun 2026 · 13 min

why quitting man hating was the most feminist thing i ever did

this video is for the woman who believes that hating men is the same thing as healing. somewhere along the way, man-hating became synonymous with female empowerment. it became the proof that you had healed, evolved, and finally de-centered men. but what if true feminism requires something entirely different? in this video, i break down the 7 reasons why letting go of man-hating changed the way i viewed healing, self-worth, dating, and female empowerment. from emotional attachment and unresolved hurt to avoidance, resentment, and the surprising similarities between man-hating culture and the…
29 May 2026 · 23 min

REALITY CHECK: why you still don't have the love you want

if you’re constantly overthinking texts, stuck in situationships, comparing yourself to girls in relationships, or feeling like everyone else finds love so easily except you...this reality check is for you ❤️ in today's video, we’re talking about self concept, attachment styles, manifestation, boundaries, confidence, detachment, and the small daily choices that either move you closer to healthy love or keep you stuck in the same toxic cycle. if you’re tired of settling, obsessing over unavailable people, or feeling like you always have to earn love, this video is for you. because the…
22 May 2026 · 17 min

how to transform your life before summer (you have one month)

this is your mid-year reminder that you do not need to wait until january to become the woman you said you wanted to be. in this video, we reset your space, your phone, your mind, and your habits so you can stop avoiding your goals and start rebuilding discipline, self-trust, and momentum before 2026 slips away. if you have been feeling stuck, burnt out, inconsistent, or disconnected from your future self, this is your 30-day reset to get back in alignment ✨ ♡ WHAT'S IN THIS VIDEO: 02:30 Chapter 1: The Reset 12:59 Chapter 2: The Method 🛍️ SHOP & LINKS: Shop my Abbott Lyon Collection use my…
12 May 2026 · 21 min

how to finally silence your inner critic (for the women who have already done the work)

this one is for the woman who has already done the work. who knows the tools. who has grown and who keeps hitting the same wall every time she tries to go higher. your inner critic does not disappear when you evolve. it evolves with you. it gets quieter, subtler, and far more dangerous. it stops sounding like self-hate and starts sounding like wisdom. and that is when it does the most damage. this video covers the neuroscience behind why the inner critic gets loudest exactly when you are closest to your next level, the specific methods to silence it at the root, and the daily identity work…
8 May 2026 · 22 min

how to be a b*tch — why being nice is sabotaging your entire life

you already know how to be a b*tch. parts one, two, and three gave you the tools. part four goes somewhere the others never did. this one is about the bigger picture. why being nice is quietly sabotaging your goals, your self-esteem, your energy, and the company you keep. why your body is paying a physical price for every emotion you've swallowed to keep the peace. why the women who get treated well in relationships aren't always the kindest...they're the most self-possessed. and how to build a daily life that actually reflects the woman you are becoming, not the one you were conditioned to…
21 Apr 2026 · 22 min

why women who put themselves first win every time

for the woman who has always been the reliable one. the one who shows up, gives everything, and somehow still ends up last on her own list — without being able to explain why. this video is the explanation. and the way out. there is a system built into friendships, families, relationships, and culture itself that keeps women small. it does not announce itself loudly. it uses guilt, shame, and a single word to ensure you never fully choose yourself. this video dismantles it completely. we cover the cultural mechanism behind why women are punished for self-prioritisation, the exact patterns…
16 Apr 2026 · 18 min

how to ACTUALLY be yourself (when you've forgotten who that is)

feeling disconnected from yourself and tired of second-guessing everything you say, do, and want? in this video, i’m talking about how people-pleasing, fear of rejection, and old survival patterns can quietly pull you away from who you really are, until you barely recognize your own voice. we’re getting into why authenticity can feel so hard, how social media, relationships, and the need to be liked can shape a version of you that feels safe but not fully true, and what it actually looks like to come back to yourself with more honesty, self-trust, and confidence. ♡ WHAT'S IN THIS VIDEO:…
27 Mar 2026 · 15 min

the ULTIMATE guide to becoming your own version of an "it girl"

hey girlies, i lost the outro clip during filming, so that’s why the ending is a little abrupt 😭 but i hope you guys still enjoyed the video. let me know your favorite part in the comments 💌 becoming the IT girl starts with realizing you were never missing “it” you just needed to stop searching for it in trends, attention, or other people’s validation. in this video, we’re talking about what it really takes to become her through mindset shifts, self trust, and the daily habits that shape the way you move, present yourself, and create your life. this is for the girl who knows she is meant…
23 Mar 2026 · 15 min

watch this when you want to give up

watch this when you want to give up and need a reminder that this difficult season of your life is not where your story ends. in this episode, we’re talking about feeling stuck, unmotivated, behind, or like nothing is working even though you’re trying your best. this is for the girl in a slump or in the messy middle who wants to keep going, trust her journey, and stay committed to becoming the woman she knows she can be. if you’ve been feeling discouraged, let this be the video you return to when you need perspective, comfort, and a push to keep going. ♡ WHAT'S IN THIS VIDEO: 00:00…
14 Mar 2026 · 21 min

the ULTIMATE guide to fake friends | subtle signs to watch out for & friendship advice

hi girlies! guess what... it’s my 400th video! 🎉 i’m so grateful for your continued support and love through the years ❤️ and since you have also come a long way in your self-love journey, give yourself a pat on the back for your consistency because that’s a big deal. to celebrate my 400th video, we’re talking fake friends and why they’re not always obvious. i’m breaking down the signs of toxic friendships and jealous friends like constant comparison, “i could never” comments, disrespect disguised as jokes, gossip, and the weird energy when you’re winning. if you’re outgrowing friends or…
24 Feb 2026 · 24 min

8 harsh truths you need to hear to achieve REAL growth

Sign up today for your $1 a month trial with Shopify and start selling today at http://shopify.com/AU 💐 LAST CHANCE TO ORDER MY LIMITED EDITION BOOK: “Buy Yourself the Damn Flowers” — with 2 new chapters! AMZ if you’ve been feeling stuck, here are 8 harsh truths i wish someone told me sooner. in today’s video, we’re breaking down mindset, limiting beliefs, and why the version of “reality” you’re living in is often shaped by old stories and identity patterns. i’m also sharing why discomfort, embarrassment, and imposter syndrome are actually signs you’re growing, and how choosing self-respect…
13 Feb 2026 · 30 min

GIRL TALK: juicy dating dilemmas, relationship & self-love advice (VALENTINES EDITION)

Sign up today for your $1 a month trial with Shopify and start selling today at http://shopify.com/AU 💐 LAST CHANCE TO ORDER MY LIMITED EDITION BOOK: “Buy Yourself the Damn Flowers” — with 2 new chapters! AMZ it’s that time again, girlies!!! 💌✨ girl talk: valentine’s edition!!! in today’s episode, we’re having a cozy one-on-one bestie chat where i’m answering your juiciest dating questions, relationship dilemmas, situationship scenarios, and more. plus, i’m sharing self-love tips, confidence mindset shifts, and actionable steps you can actually apply to your self-love journey all year…
6 Feb 2026 · 28 min

how to date once you realize you don't need a man

Sign up today for your £1 a month trial with Shopify and start selling today at http://shopify.co.uk/ Sign up today for your $1 a month trial with Shopify and start selling today at http://shopify.com/AU 💐 ORDER MY LIMITED EDITION BOOK: “Buy Yourself the Damn Flowers” — with 2 new chapters! WTS | AMZ dating gets easier when you’re already anchored in self-love ✨ in this video, we’re talking about healing old patterns, rewiring your beliefs about love, and dating from confidence — not craving. we’ll cover high standards, staying loyal to your solo life, and the shift from auditioning to…
31 Jan 2026 · 30 min

how to be self-obsessed | become confident, magnetic, and emotionally unbothered in 2026

Sign up today for your $1 a month trial with Shopify and start selling today at http://shopify.com/AU 💐 PRE-ORDER MY LIMITED EDITION BOOK: “Buy Yourself the Damn Flowers” — with 2 new chapters! WTS | AMZ self-obsession isn’t selfish— it’s the foundation of confidence, self-love, and emotional discipline ✨ in this video, we’re talking about what it really means to be healthily self-obsessed and how embracing this energy can help you stop people pleasing, build self-trust, and finally raise your standards. i’m sharing the mindset shifts that helped me protect my peace, regulate my emotions,…
24 Jan 2026 · 25 min

REALITY CHECK: let 2026 be the year you become untouchable

Shopify UK: Sign up today for your £1 a month trial with Shopify and start selling today for at ⁠shopify.co.uk⁠ Shopify AU : Sign up today for your $1 a month trial with Shopify and start selling today for at ⁠shopify.com/AU⁠ 💐 PRE-ORDER MY LIMITED EDITION BOOK: “Buy Yourself the Damn Flowers” — with 2 new chapters! WTS | AMZ 2026 is the year you will become untouchable ✨ in this episode, we’re talking about what it really means to be healthily self-obsessed. i’m sharing the mindset shifts, self-love habits, and emotional regulation tools that helped me stop caring what people think, stop…
24 Jan 2026 · 33 min

10 “normal” habits that will secretly keep you stuck all 2026

Learn a new language and get up to 60% off your subscription at http://babbel.com/SELFOBSESSED⁠ Shopify UK: Sign up today for your £1 a month trial with Shopify and start selling today for at shopify.co.uk Shopify AU : Sign up today for your $1 a month trial with Shopify and start selling today for at shopify.com/AU 💐 PRE-ORDER MY LIMITED EDITION BOOK: “Buy Yourself the Damn Flowers” — with 2 new chapters! WTS | AMZ welcome to your 2026 glow-up mindset reset ✨ in this episode, we’re talking about the subtle ways you self-sabotage without realizing it, and how to shift into future-self…
26 Dec 2025 · 22 min

the self-obsessed girl’s blueprint for january

Find out your Hype Type with the Hype Type Revealer on the FCA InvestSmart website. Become a smarter investor today: https://www.fca.org.uk/investsmart 💐 PRE-ORDER MY LIMITED EDITION BOOK: “Buy Yourself the Damn Flowers” — with 2 new chapters! WTS | AMZ the 2026 january reset that helps you stay consistent all year round ✨ in this video, i’m sharing my exact january routine for goal setting, discipline, and sustainable habits, plus the mindset shifts that help you stop repeating old patterns and start becoming her. we’re taking big goals and turning them into small, realistic steps,…
19 Dec 2025 · 22 min

how to rebrand for 2026 like the ceo of your empire

Find out your Hype Type with the Hype Type Revealer on the FCA InvestSmart website. Become a smarter investor today: https://www.fca.org.uk/investsmart 💐 PRE-ORDER MY LIMITED EDITION BOOK: “Buy Yourself the Damn Flowers” — with 2 new chapters! WTS | AMZ it’s time to level up in 2026 and rebrand yourself like a billion dollar company ✨ in this video i’m breaking down personal growth the same way businesses do a real rebrand from the inside out. we’re redefining your identity, raising your standards, and building new habits that actually stick so you stop “trying” to change and start…
12 Dec 2025 · 43 min

your 30 day glow up plan for 2026

Find out your Hype Type with the Hype Type Revealer on the FCA InvestSmart website. Become a smarter investor today: https://www.fca.org.uk/investsmart 💐 PRE-ORDER MY LIMITED EDITION BOOK: “Buy Yourself the Damn Flowers” — with 2 new chapters! WTS | AMZ 2026 is right around the corner, and in today’s video i’m taking you along for a 30 day 2026 glow up plan to help you glow up before january 1st! this is not just about aesthetics, it’s about upgrading your identity, habits, and standards so your new year reset actually lasts. i’m sharing 30 actionable things to do before 2026 — from closing…
5 Dec 2025 · 40 min

2026 vision board that ACTUALLY works [2025 goals came true] | manifest tips, goals & becoming her

Find out your Hype Type with the Hype Type Revealer on the FCA InvestSmart website. Become a smarter investor today: https://www.fca.org.uk/investsmart 💐 PRE-ORDER MY LIMITED EDITION BOOK: “Buy Yourself the Damn Flowers” — with 2 new chapters! WTS AMZ i’m showing you exactly how i made my 2026 vision board — from what came true on my 2025 board to how i’m planning my dream life this year. we’re talking manifestation, aligned goal setting, inner work, and the science behind vision boarding (because yes… there’s a method to the magic ✨). if you’re ready to reset your mindset, glow up, and…
21 Nov 2025 · 32 min

GIRL TALK Q&A: dating advice, friendship jealousy, self-worth & feeling behind in your 20s

feeling behind in your 20s? comparing yourself to friends? struggling with dating or confidence? in this girl talk q&a, i’m answering your real dilemmas — from friendship jealousy and dating rejection to self-worth, glow-ups, and navigating your own timeline. whether you’re dealing with unrequited love, envy in friendships, or just trying to figure out your dream career, this is your reminder you’re not alone. grab a matcha, plug in, and let’s get honest. 🤍☕️ ♡ WHAT’S IN THIS VIDEO: 00:00 Introduction 01:18 Dilemmas in Love and Dating 06:46 Navigating Friendships 14:46 Self-Love and…
21 Nov 2025 · 19 min

how i became the woman of my dreams and how you can too

how i became the woman of my dreams 💫 — after years of chasing validation, overworking, and holding onto past versions of myself, i realized true growth begins when you stop waiting for permission and start becoming her — the version of you who chooses herself daily. in this video, i open up about the mindset shifts, identity shedding, and inner work that helped me raise my standards, embrace discomfort, and start living with intention. this journey isn’t about perfection— it’s about evolving into the woman you’ve always known you could be. ♡ WHAT'S IN THIS VIDEO: 00:00 Introduction 01:09…

About Self Obsessed

Tam Kaur’s Self-Obsessed is the ultimate guide to everything society didn’t want you to learn. In a world where women are criticised for wanting and being ‘too much’ it's time to change the narrative. Join our host Tam in learning how to be self-obsessed. After all, it’s only about prioritising your self-love, self-care, self-confidence, self-worth and self-growth. ‘Self-Obsessed’ simplifies the process of closing the gap between your current self and your desired self. Every episode is a straight-to-the-point carefully curated guide to help women everywhere fall in love with themselves. Each episode will provide actionable advice while navigating topics such as building confidence, embracing authenticity, setting boundaries, cultivating healthy relationships, and pursuing your passions. So, consider this your safest space on the internet as Tam gives you the life secrets no-one else ever shared. It’s time to be your own idol.

Self Obsessed is a English learning podcast from Tam Kaur. Melo plays each episode straight from the publisher's own feed — no ads added, no account needed — and remembers where you stopped, in this browser only.

Publisher: Tam Kaur
Language: English
Category: Learning
New episodes: Weekly
Typical length: 22 min
Latest episode: 28 Sep 2026
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