Why ‘Calm Down’ Backfires & What to Say Instead During Meltdowns

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   E96 · 21 Oct 2025 · 46 min

   The New Way to Handle Toddler Tantrums and Big Emotions w/ Devon Kuntzman, Transforming Toddlerhood

   Transforming Toddlerhood: How to Embrace and Enjoy Parenting with Devin Kuntzman! Follow Devon Kuntzman here on Instagram Get Devon's new book, Transforming Toddlerhood here! Welcome to the Toddler Toolkit podcast! In this episode, we're thrilled to have modern parenting expert Devin Kuntzman. Devin is well-known for her work on Instagram as the original toddler parenting coach, trusted by millions of parents worldwide. Devin shares her mission to shift the narrative around toddlerhood, viewing it as a stage filled with opportunities rather than challenges. She discusses her comprehensive…

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   E97 · 20 Oct 2025 · 20 min

   Stop Trying to Get Your Toddler to Listen: Right Intention, Wrong Strategy

   Stop Trying to Get Your Toddler to Listen: Right Intention, Wrong Strategy The Calm Superpower Cohort starts the week of November 3rd. It’s three weeks, three live Q&As on Zoom (recordings available after), and one calm superpower that changes everything. You’ll learn how to handle meltdowns, power struggles, and those “push your button” moments with tools that actually work in real life. Enroll before October 31st to get the Sweet Treat Deal — $97 (regularly $197) and a free Toddler Toolkit T-shirt (value of $30 USD) for the first 5 sign-ups. Sign up here! In this episode of the Toddler…

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   E95 · 13 Oct 2025 · 17 min

   The Hidden Reason You Snap and 4 Things That Stop the Cycle

   The Hidden Reason You Snap and 4 Things That Stop the Cycle | Toddler Toolkit Podcast "If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast —It's HERE! In this episode of the Toddler Toolkit Podcast, I reflect on a key insight inspired between my personal life and by an interview with Katie Krimitsos (coming on air soon!): why is it easier for moms to show compassion to their children than to themselves? We dive into real-life scenarios…

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   E94 · 6 Oct 2025 · 22 min

   Toddler Fighting You? 3 Ways Parents Accidentally Shut Down Kindness

   Toddler Fighting You? 3 Ways Parents Accidentally Shut Down Kindness 🎤I’m so honored to be a speaker in the Happily Family Online Conference (Oct 9–13) alongside Dr. Daniel Siegel, More than 100,000 families are already joining in. Together, we’ll hear from 25+ parenting experts sharing practical tools for real family life—the messy, imperfect, beautiful kind. 👉 Get a Free Ticket Here . 🎫 ------------------------------------------------------ In this episode of the Toddler Toolkit Podcast, we explore why toddlers often seem defiant and how parents might unintentionally suppress kindness in…

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   E93 · 29 Sep 2025 · 38 min

   What Really Holds Moms Back in Fitness & This Truth That Works Instead w/ Athena Concannon

   Realistic Fitness and Nutrition for Busy Moms ft. Athena Concannon | Toddler Toolkit Podcast Most moms don’t fail because they lack willpower—they’re stuck in fitness myths that don’t work. In this episode, Athena Concannon reveals the truth that actually helps busy moms see real results without extremes. Connect with Athena HERE: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/athenaconcannon/ Website: https://www.achievewithathena.com/ ------------------------------------------------------ I’m so honored to be a speaker in the Happily Family Online Conference (Oct 9–13) alongside Dr. Daniel Siegel !…

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   E91 · 15 Sep 2025 · 18 min

   From Tantrums to ‘I’m Sorry’: Emotional Milestones Every Parent Should Know

   From Tantrums to ‘I’m Sorry’: Emotional Milestones Every Parent Should Know "If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast —It's HERE! Watch us Chat for the Podcast Interviews with YouTube Video HERE! Episode Mentions: 3 Phrases That Calm Toddler Meltdowns Over Mistakes What You Do in Your Child’s 'Big Emotional Moments' Changes Everything Today's Episode: Parents love celebrating first steps and words, but what about emotional…

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   E90 · 8 Sep 2025 · 15 min

   3 Phrases That Calm Toddler Meltdowns Over Mistakes

   3 Phrases That Calm Toddler Meltdowns Over Mistakes "If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast —It's HERE! In this episode, Heather shares personal stories and practical tips for parents to help their toddlers build resilience. Through reassurance and a growth mindset, toddlers can overcome frustration and perfectionism. The episode includes specific scripts for parents to use, discusses common toddler struggles, and emphasizes…

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   E89 · 1 Sep 2025 · 12 min

   Why School Drop-Off Can Get Hard & What to Do About Late Separation Anxiety

   Why School Drop-Off Can Get Hard & What to Do About Late Separation Anxiety "If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast —It's HERE! In this episode of the Toddler Toolkit podcast, we discuss why separation anxiety can show up later than expected and offer creative strategies to ease drop-offs. Sharing personal experiences and practical tips like Jobs of Connection, you'll learn how to help your toddler feel more secure and…

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   E88 · 25 Aug 2025 · 26 min

   The 4 Tantrum Styles: Which One Are You (and How to Handle Meltdowns Better)

   Understanding Your Toddler's Tantrums: Find Your Parenting Style "If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast —It's HERE! This episode was referenced for you to also listen to: What You Do in Your Child’s 'Big Emotional Moments' Changes Everything Why Your Toddler Can’t Hear You in a Meltdown & What to Do Instead Welcome to the Toddler Toolkit podcast! In this episode, we tackle toddler tantrums and the different styles parents…

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    E87 · 18 Aug 2025 · 18 min

    Why Your Toddler Can’t Hear You in a Meltdown & What to Do Instead

    Why Your Toddler Can’t Hear You in a Meltdown & What to Do Instead "If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast —It's HERE! This episode was referenced for you to also listen to: What You Do in Your Child’s 'Big Emotional Moments' Changes Everything In this episode of the Toddler Toolkit podcast, we dive into the power of holding space for your toddler's big emotions without trying to fix or debate them. Learn three core…