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Boundaries Workshop Sign-Up: https://app.confidencechris.com/boundaries-pop-up-sign-up I found the secret to getting back into your good energy. It's actually really simple, yet so insidiously hard. Did you know that you are one direct communication away from freedom? Let's talk about it. I'll dissect three situations from people who are all post-relationship and all doing the same thing: trying to think their way out of a feeling. One of them wanted me to confirm that a guy's behavior was weird, but what she actually needed was to feel the disappointment and let go of solving it. Maybe your…
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Confidence Chris · Society & Culture · English
As a dating coach and disorganized avoidant, I've observed dating from the lens of my own experience and through the experience of others. This podcast is about sharing what is absolutely true, while focusing on how I can help you with dating, attachment, and putting an end to your unwanted patterns
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