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Conscious Parenting Your ADHD Child

by Stacey Yates Sellar · English · Kids & Family

Conscious Parenting Your ADHD Child: The Coachcast is your lighthouse in the storm of parenting information, advice and overwhelm. Hosted by Stacey Yates Sellar, a conscious parenting coach, this coachcast delivers real-time, bite-sized coaching sessions with parents navigating the unique challenge

New episodes: Weekly
Typical length: 13 min
Latest: 12 Oct 2026
Language: English

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12 Oct 2026 · 16 minNew

Do This Before Your Child Becomes A Teen!

Are you currently surviving the trenches of tantrums, homework battles, and sock-seam meltdowns with your primary school-aged child? In this episode, we dive deep into the critical developmental window between the ages of four and nine, and why what you do now dictates your relationship with your future teenager. Drawing on the work of Dr. Gordon Neufeld and Dr. Gabor Maté, we explore the invisible shift where children transfer their attachment from their parents to their peers, and how you can build "relationship insurance" before the adolescent years hit. What You’ll Discover - The Myth of…

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S2 · E17 · 28 Sep 2026 · 5 min
Is Your Child Manipulating You?
When your neurodiverse child suddenly refuses to do a simple task they managed perfectly yesterday, it is easy to wonder if you are being manipulated. In this episode, I dismantle the exhausting "can't versus won't" debate that leaves so many parents of neurodivergent children feeling overwhelmed and full of self-doubt. I explore why what looks like manipulation is often a capacity issue, how our own hidden fears drive our reactions, and why consistency is actually the very thing impaired by ADHD. What You’ll Discover - The Manipulation Myth : Why a dysregulated ADHD brain lacks the…
S2 · E16 · 14 Sep 2026 · 12 min
Running on Empty: How to Regulate When You Have Nothing Left
How are you supposed to stay calm and regulated for your child when you literally have nothing left in the tank? In this episode, we dive deep into the reality of parental burnout and why trying to "grit your teeth" through the exhaustion simply doesn't work. We explore why staying regulated is never a willpower problem, but rather a sign of a nervous system that has been stuck in threat mode for far too long. If you are constantly running on empty, the only way back to baseline is to stop adding to your plate and start ruthlessly deleting the things that drain you. What You’ll Discover -…
S2 · E15 · 20 Jul 2026 · 13 min
When Your Child Won't Talk to You
This is one of those topics that we just don't talk about enough in our daily lives, mostly because we get so caught up in the busyness of simply trying to keep up. In this episode, we dive deep into the painful reality of what happens when a child stops talking to their parents. We explore the hidden fears that drive us to push harder, the subtle ways we accidentally shut our children down, and why the most loving thing we can do is often to simply stop talking and start observing. What You’ll Discover - Why Silence is a Message: How a child's refusal to engage is rarely about defiance, and…
S2 · E14 · 13 Jul 2026 · 21 min
What the Collapse of the College Degree Means
The old contract of "work hard, earn the grades, and secure the future" is officially wobbling, and artificial intelligence is only accelerating the crack in the foundation. In this episode, we dive deep into the shifting landscape of higher education and what the "collapse of the college degree" really means for our children. We explore why the traditional path is failing, and why parents of neurodiverse kids are uniquely positioned to navigate this new reality. What You’ll Discover - The Illusion of the Degree: Why artificial intelligence is exposing the cracks in a system that has long…
S2 · E13 · 6 Jul 2026 · 8 min
The Gap Between Knowing and Doing
The gap between knowing what to do and actually doing it in the heat of the moment. In this episode, we explore one of the most frustrating challenges in parenting - especially when raising neurodivergent children: you understand the strategies, you’ve done the reading and the reflection, but when your child escalates, the old reactive patterns still take over. This is a practical, compassionate look at why insight alone isn’t enough and what actually creates lasting change. What You’ll Discover - Why Knowing Isn’t Enoug h: The neuroscience behind the gap - your nervous system moves faster…
S2 · E12 · 29 Jun 2026 · 9 min
Letter to My Judgmental Parent
A heartfelt letter to every parent who thinks you're "too soft" with your neurodivergent child. In this episode, I share a letter - a loving, science-backed response to judgmental grandparents and older generations who don’t understand modern, compassionate parenting. It’s a bridge across generations, explaining why regulation comes before punishment and why connection is the real foundation for growth. What You’ll Discover - The Neuroscience of Neurodivergent Behaviour : Why a child’s big feelings, meltdowns, and defiance often come from nervous system overload rather than “bad behaviour,”…
S2 · E11 · 8 Jun 2026 · 14 min
The Sex Talk You Are Avoiding
The conversation every parent dreads - the internet is already having with your kids. In this episode, we tackle one of the most uncomfortable but essential topics for modern parenting: how to talk to your children about sex, bodies, and consent in a world where pornography reaches them long before you do. From the realities of early exposure to practical ways to start the conversation, this is a direct, honest guide for parents who want to stay in the picture. What You’ll Discover - The Reality of Early Exposure : Why the average age kids first see porn is now 11, how it happens, and the…
S2 · E10 · 18 May 2026 · 9 min
Modeling Screen Control
I think this is something so many of us feel stuck on. Screens, scrolling, and that constant battle of trying to get our kids to switch off when, if we’re honest, we struggle with it ourselves. In this episode, I break down what’s really going on beneath screen time struggles and share the single most powerful shift you can make as a parent. It’s not about stricter rules or more control. It’s about what we model every single day. What You’ll Discover - It’s Not Screens, It’s the Scroll : The real issue is passive, addictive content designed to keep us hooked, not all screen use itself. - Why…
S2 · E9 · 27 Apr 2026 · 12 min
Coaching Parents J & J Through Messy Mealtime Battles
I had one of those coaching conversations recently that I know so many parents will recognise instantly. The repeating, the arguing, the escalating, and that moment where you hear yourself and think, how did we get here again? In this episode, I share a real-life coaching breakdown with a family navigating daily struggles around listening, transitions, and mealtimes. We unpack what’s really going on beneath the surface and, more importantly, how to interrupt those patterns in a way that actually builds skills instead of stress. What You’ll Discover - The One-Time Rule That Changes Everything…
S2 · E8 · 20 Apr 2026 · 11 min
Information Isn’t the Problem, Implementation Is
You’ve read the books, watched the reels, tried the strategies, and yet nothing seems to stick in the moment when things really matter. In this episode, I unpack a powerful idea that completely shifts how we think about change. It’s not about learning more. It’s about what actually helps you show up differently when your child needs you most. What You’ll Discover - The Intention vs Action Gap : Why knowing what to do doesn’t translate into doing it, especially in high-pressure parenting moments. - Why Information Alone Falls Short : Books, courses, and advice can’t rewire your responses…
S2 · E9 · 13 Apr 2026 · 19 min
Why Is Everything Around School SO Hard
I’ve been sitting with this question a lot lately, why does everything around school feel so hard for some families? In this episode, I unpack a perspective that might feel uncomfortable at first but deeply validating once it lands. What if the problem isn’t our kids, but the system they’re being asked to fit into? We explore how modern education still reflects an outdated model, and what it means for neurodivergent children who are wired completely differently. This is a conversation about shifting our lens as parents and creating environments where our kids can actually thrive. What You’ll…
S2 · E7 · 6 Apr 2026 · 10 min
The Most Helpful Mantra
I’ve had so many of those moments where you can feel it building. You know the ones. The tiny triggers stack up, your patience is gone, and you’re seconds away from saying something you’ll regret. In this episode, I share the mantra that’s helped me more than anything else in those exact moments. This isn’t about perfect parenting or always staying calm. It’s about what to do when you can’t access your best self, and how to respond in a way that protects both you and your child. What You’ll Discover - Walk Away Is the Skill : When you’re fully escalated, the most powerful thing you can do is…
S2 · E6 · 30 Mar 2026 · 19 min
Why Kids Can't See Danger Online
I’ve been thinking a lot about how our kids experience the online world, and honestly, it’s very different from how we imagine it as adults. In this episode, I unpack why children often can’t see the risks that feel so obvious to us, and what that means for how we support them. What You’ll Discover - Why Kids Miss the Risk : Children don’t interpret online danger the same way adults do, because their brains are still developing the ability to assess long-term consequences. - Safety Isn’t Just Rules : Simply telling kids what not to do isn’t enough, they need guidance, context, and ongoing…
S2 · E5 · 23 Mar 2026 · 20 min
Should We Let Our Kids Quit
I think every parent hits this moment at some point. You’re standing there, maybe in a car park, maybe mid-practice, and your child says they’re done. Completely done. And suddenly you’re stuck between two fears. If I let them quit, what am I teaching them about resilience? But if I make them stay, what am I teaching them about their voice and autonomy? In this episode, I unpack that dilemma and share a more nuanced way to think about quitting, one that helps us raise kids who can do hard things without losing themselves in the process. What You’ll Discover Reactive vs Considered Quitting :…
S2 · E4 · 9 Mar 2026 · 8 min
Letter To My Parent: Who Thinks I'm Too Soft With My ADHD/Neurodiverse Kid
This episode is a letter. A letter to the parent who thinks I’m too soft with my ADHD, neurodivergent child. You see shouting, swearing, slammed doors and defiance. I see a nervous system in overload. In this personal episode, I unpack what modern neuroscience teaches us about impulse control, emotional regulation and developmental difference. This is not about excusing behaviour. It is about understanding it, because explanation changes intervention. What You’ll Discover - Ferrari Brain, Bicycle Brakes : Why neurodivergent children can experience bigger emotions with slower-developing…
S2 · E3 · 16 Feb 2026 · 13 min
Finding Meaning in the Mess of ND Parenting
Parenting a neurodivergent kid can feel like endless chaos - meltdowns over sandwiches, spilled nail polish disasters and I've screamed "why me?" into a pillow more times than I can count. In this episode, I share my reflections on flipping that question to "why not me?" We explore the idea that these kids aren't here to be "fixed" - they're here to awaken us, helping us grow through the mess and find deeper meaning in the daily struggles. What You'll Discover - The "Why Me?" Flip : How shifting from frustration to seeing your child as a teacher turns overwhelming moments into opportunities…
S2 · E2 · 9 Feb 2026 · 9 min
Raining Triggers: Surviving the Daily Storm Your Kid Controls
Ever feel like your home is a permanent storm zone, with slammed doors, shouted "no's," and tears coming out of nowhere and your kid seems to be the one calling the shots? In this episode, I dive into parenting neurodivergent kids through those relentless "raining triggers." I break down why it feels so overwhelming, the inner conflicts that make it worse, and share practical ways to find calm without losing your mind. What You'll Discover - The Storm's Real Source : How your kid's brain wiring turns everyday moments into emotional downpours and why it's not about control but understanding.…
S2 · E1 · 2 Feb 2026 · 16 min
Why School Is So Hard: The System Is Failing Neurodivergent Kids
I've spent a lot of time thinking about how school can feel like a battleground for neurodivergent kids and their families. In this episode, I dive into why modern education - still stuck in that 19th-century factory model - sets up creative, curious ND kids for struggle and burnout. We talk about the mismatch that's leaving families exhausted, the hidden costs of pushing kids to fit, and what real change could look like. What You'll Discover - The Factory Model Mismatch : How schools designed for obedient workers clash with ND kids' need for movement, depth, and innovation and why it's the…
S1 · E12 · 17 Nov 2025 · 25 min
Parenting ADHD: The Power of Rest and Play
What if the secret to helping children flourish isn’t in doing more, but in shaping a world where they can bloom on their own? In this episode, I sit down with Dr Deborah McNamara, developmentalist, author, and educator, whose work is grounded in attachment science, neuroscience, and developmental psychology. We explore the power of psychological rest, the importance of play as the foundation of development, and why taking the lead as parents isn’t about control, but about creating safety, connection, and trust. What You’ll Learn Rest as a Foundation : How psychological rest anchored in…
S1 · E11 · 20 Oct 2025 · 5 min
Coaching Session: Penny on The Power of Small Moments
What if the most powerful way to build a stronger bond with your child was simply to pause, look into their eyes, and give them 30 seconds of your world? In this episode, Penny reveals that meaningful connection with our children doesn’t require elaborate plans or endless hours - it begins with being truly present. By simply pausing, breathing, and truly listening, Penny learned how even the briefest interactions can build trust, ease tension, and bring a sense of joy back into everyday family life. What You'll Learn Small Moments, Big Impact : How just 15-30 seconds of genuine presence can…
S1 · E10 · 13 Oct 2025 · 20 min
Parenting ADHD: Letting Go of the Perfect Child
What if everything you thought you knew about parenting was a lie? In this episode, I share a powerful and personal reflection on why traditional parenting expectations often do more harm than good. Drawing from my own experiences as a mother and the stories of hundreds of parents I’ve supported, I challenge the "A + B = C" equation that suggests perfect parenting produces perfect children. I unpack the weight of socially constructed obedience, patience, achievement and the guilt that comes when children don't meet those standards on someone else's timeline. What You'll Learn - The Parenting…
S1 · E9 · 6 Oct 2025 · 7 min
Coaching Session: Paula on Reframing Fixed Mindsets
In this episode, Paula shares her daughter’s struggles with reading and her fears of being rejected by friends. We explore practical, actionable strategies to help children overcome social anxiety, challenge fixed mindsets, and embrace authentic self-expression to build genuine connections. What You’ll Learn - Challenge Negative Beliefs : Teach kids to question fears, like “no one will like me,” by gently asking, “Is that really true?” to shift their perspective. - Build Authentic Confidence : Discover how to help children recognise and celebrate their unique strengths, encouraging them to…
S1 · E8 · 29 Sep 2025 · 13 min
Coaching Session: Angela on Handling Sudden Anger Outbursts
How do you keep your cool when your child’s ADHD-driven outbursts disrupt precious family moments? In this episode, Angela shares a heartfelt story of a gathering where a simple request for space spiralled into shouts and tears. We dive into the root causes of these intense reactions—unmasking the impact of school masking, underdeveloped communication skills, and evening energy slumps—and reveal how empathy, not ultimatums, fosters connection. Discover how medication can serve as a supportive tool, why honouring your child’s need for space is key, and how imperfect yet powerful strategies,…
S1 · E7 · 22 Sep 2025 · 10 min
Parenting ADHD: Sip of TEA for Raising Happy Kids
What if a simple sip of TEA could make parenting feel a bit easier? In this episode, I share how you can raise confident, resilient kids using my Tip, Encouragement, Action (TEA) approach. Drawing from my own family life, I share practical ways to model positive behaviours, connect with teens through open communication, praise effort over results, and spark creativity when boredom strikes. What You’ll Learn - Modelling Tip: Show respect, healthy eating, and kindness to instil these traits naturally in your children. - Encouraging Dialogue: Reduce judgment to build trust and open…
S1 · E6 · 15 Sep 2025 · 15 min
Parenting ADHD: Tapping Away Stress with EFT
What if a simple technique could melt away your daily stress? In this episode, I am joined by my brother Brad Yates, a tapping expert with nearly 20 years' experience. Brad shares how tapping (Emotional Freedom Techniques) works, and its power to clear emotional blocks. What You'll Learn - Stress Relief Basics: Use fingertip tapping on acupressure points with affirmations to quickly reduce daily tension. - Overcoming Fears: Apply tapping to conquer anxieties like public speaking for greater confidence. - Daily Practice: Incorporate short tapping sessions to maintain emotional balance and…
S1 · E5 · 8 Sep 2025 · 7 min
Parenting ADHD: Why Outdated Methods Don't Work
Why do ‘traditional’ parenting methods like timeouts and yelling backfire with ADHD kids? Simply, they clash with ADHD wiring, creating resentment and fear. Research shows they harm self-esteem and worsen behaviours by ignoring root causes like sensory overload or unmet needs. Drawing from my parenting experience, I learned that decoding the “why” behind ADHD meltdowns fosters trust and security. In this episode, I share research-backed strategies to ditch outdated discipline, offering compassionate alternatives that boost your ADHD child’s self-esteem and resilience. Conscious Parenting…
S1 · E4 · 1 Sep 2025 · 13 min
Coaching Session: Angela on Navigating Family Dynamics and External Judgment
How do you keep your cool when your child’s ADHD-driven outbursts disrupt precious family moments? In this episode, Angela shares a heartfelt story of a gathering where a simple request for space spiralled into shouts and tears. We dive into the root causes of these intense reactions—unmasking the impact of school masking, underdeveloped communication skills, and evening energy slumps—and reveal how empathy, not ultimatums, fosters connection. Discover how medication can serve as a supportive tool, why honouring your child’s need for space is key, and how imperfect yet powerful strategies,…
S1 · E3 · 25 Aug 2025 · 14 min
ADHD: Letter to Partner
Parenting an ADHD kid can feel like a puzzle, but what if the solution starts with seeing them differently? I’m sharing an open letter to partners of parents navigating ADHD, pulling from my own journey as a parent and coach, plus years of research boiled down to real talk. It’s easy to feel frustrated when typical discipline doesn’t work, but ADHD kids thrive on connection, not correction. Break the shame cycle, understand their unique wiring, and build trust with small, loving acts. ADHD brains feel rejection deeply, and criticism can chip away at their confidence. Simple moments - like…
S1 · E2 · 18 Aug 2025 · 7 min
Parenting ADHD: Embracing Acceptance and Staying Calm
What if parenting a child with ADHD is less about their behaviour and more about our expectations? In this episode, I share insights from my journey exploring how accepting kids as they are and without judgment, transforms conflicts into nurturing moments. Letting go of idealised images of our children allows us to respond with love, fostering authentic connection. Accepting struggles like biting or meltdowns doesn’t mean condoning them; it creates space for growth. By reframing fears and resisting control, we build trust where kids feel seen. This episode reflects on moving from resistance…

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Conscious Parenting Your ADHD Child is a English kids & family podcast from Stacey Yates Sellar. Melo plays each episode straight from the publisher's own feed — no ads added, no account needed — and remembers where you stopped, in this browser only.

Publisher: Stacey Yates Sellar
Language: English
Category: Kids & Family
New episodes: Weekly
Typical length: 13 min
Latest episode: 12 Oct 2026
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