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by Caleb & Verlynda Simonyi-Gindele · English · Health
Formerly: The Marriage Podcast for Smart People. Co-hosted by Caleb and Verlynda Simonyi-Gindele. We are married to each other and are both counselors who have worked extensively with couples and individuals. We own Therapevo Counselling Inc., a counselling agency that delivers hope and healing to c
12 Oct 2026 · 24 minNew
If you've wondered whether you're actually addicted to porn or just watch a lot, this episode is for you. Caleb Simonyi-Gindele, a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist, explains why frequency isn't the test, what your own broken rules reveal, and whether you can moderate or need to quit. https://therapevo.com/porn-addiction/?utm_source=podcast
S2 · E318 · 5 Oct 2026 · 24 min
You found the messages, the tips, the custom videos, and you were told it was "just porn." Caleb and Verlynda explain why paid, two-way contact with a real person tends to land much closer to an affair, what the choosing does to a bond, and what real honesty and recovery look like from here, whichever side of this you're on. https://therapevo.com/healing-for-the-betrayed/?utm_source=podcast
S2 · 21 Sep 2026 · 28 min
For couples where one of you keeps reaching and the other keeps shutting down, this episode goes underneath the pursue-withdraw pattern to the two attachment fears driving it, "I will be abandoned" and "I will never be enough," and explains why the partner who looks calm is often the most flooded person in the room. By the end you will know why "just calm down" fails the anxious partner, and the two-part agreement (a named return time, a lowered reach) that actually interrupts the cycle. Free consultation with our couples team: https://therapevo.com/couples-counseling/?utm_source=podcast
S2 · 17 Sep 2026 · 24 min
For the person who ended the affair and cannot understand why their partner is still devastated, and for the partner watching that relief from inside the worst week of their life. By the end you will understand why ending an affair stops the harm but does not treat it, why "I ended it" cannot land as reassurance, and what the repair actually asks over the next months. https://therapevo.com/help-for-the-betrayer/?utm_source=podcast
S2 · E317 · 14 Sep 2026 · 28 min
For the betrayed partner who found the hidden card, the cash withdrawals, or the monthly transfer, and was surprised by how much the money part hurt. Caleb and Verlynda explain why financial infidelity inside sexual betrayal sets off a second alarm in your nervous system, what the secret spending usually contains, why caring about the money is grief and not greed, and how the financial disclosure belongs inside the recovery work rather than with an accountant. Learn more at https://therapevo.com/healing-for-the-betrayed/?utm_source=podcast
S2 · 11 Sep 2026 · 28 min
If you have ever sat next to someone you love and felt completely alone, this episode is for you. Verlynda and Caleb unpack why loneliness inside a committed relationship is usually a signal about emotional accessibility rather than evidence that you are too needy, what is actually happening when a couple has no conflict at all, and the one sentence that reaches a partner when a complaint will not. https://therapevo.com/couples-counseling/?utm_source=podcast
S2 · 7 Sep 2026 · 25 min
If you have the flashbacks and the hypervigilance and the sleep that will not come, and someone has told you it is time to move on, this episode is for you. Caleb and Verlynda walk through why betrayal produces the full symptom picture of post-traumatic stress but usually falls outside the diagnostic manual's definition of a qualifying trauma, what the research actually found, and the correction most couples never get: your partner stopping does not stop your trauma. They finish with what kind of help fits and in what order.…
S2 · 3 Sep 2026 · 32 min
If you have gone completely blank while your partner asked questions about what you did, this episode is for you. Caleb and Verlynda break down what is actually happening in your nervous system in that moment, why toxic shame collapses you while guilt moves you toward repair, and what your silence lands as on the other side of the room. You will also get three concrete things to do in the moment so you can stay present, plus the difference between a real pause and stonewalling. https://therapevo.com/help-for-the-betrayer/?utm_source=podcast
S2 · E316 · 31 Aug 2026 · 28 min
AI porn is not one thing: it is four, and the kinds that talk back reach deeper than video ever could. Caleb and Verlynda explain why AI companions hook the attachment system, what partners feel when they discover a chat thread that reads like an affair, and what real help looks like. Start with a free consultation: https://therapevo.com/porn-addiction/?utm_source=podcast
S2 · 24 Aug 2026 · 28 min
If everyone keeps telling you your partner is a narcissist but part of you wonders if this is addiction, this episode is for you. Caleb and Verlynda walk through the two engines that can drive identical betrayal, the five questions a therapist sits with instead of armchair-diagnosing, and why recovery over time is the only honest answer. Learn more or book a free consultation: https://therapevo.com/trauma-therapy/narcissistic-abuse-recovery/?utm_source=podcast
S2 · 17 Aug 2026 · 25 min
For the betrayed partner who saw exactly what kind of porn their husband was watching, and hasn't felt at home in their own body since. Caleb and Verlynda explain why his porn type reflects conditioning rather than a verdict on you, what to do with the impossible comparison, and how to heal the body-image wound of betrayal trauma without carrying his recovery. https://therapevo.com/healing-for-the-betrayed/?utm_source=podcast
S2 · 17 Aug 2026 · 22 min
If you know why you watch porn but your needs still feel unmet, this episode is the "now what." Caleb and Verlynda walk through how to actually meet the connection, comfort, and validation needs porn was faking, with a concrete roadmap for rebuilding real relationships over time. For the person who's tired of white-knuckling recovery and wants the long game that lasts. https://therapevo.com/porn-addiction/?utm_source=podcast
S2 · E315 · 10 Aug 2026 · 28 min
If your porn tastes have intensified over time, even into content that disturbs you, this episode explains the mechanism behind the drift: tolerance, novelty, and your arousal template. Certified sex addiction therapist Caleb Simonyi-Gindele unpacks why the gap between what you watch and what you'd want in real life is so common, why the shame compounds, and how the drift can be reversed at the right level of intervention. Free consultation: https://therapevo.com/porn-addiction/?utm_source=podcast
S2 · 6 Aug 2026 · 26 min
If trauma images interrupt intimacy since the betrayal, this episode is for you. Verlynda explains why the freeze, lost arousal, and dissociation are your body's protection, and walks through five somatic pacing tools for staying present on your own timeline, plus a direct word for the partner who betrayed. Support from a betrayal trauma specialist: https://therapevo.com/healing-for-the-betrayed/?utm_source=podcast
S2 · 3 Aug 2026 · 20 min
If one slip keeps turning into a three-day binge, the problem may not be your willpower. It may be your day counter. This episode is for anyone in porn addiction recovery who has stared at the "reset to Day 0" button: we cover why a relapse cannot erase your brain's progress, the researched reason broken streaks trigger binges, and the three moves that turn a relapse into fuel for more resilient sobriety. https://therapevo.com/porn-addiction/?utm_source=podcast
S2 · 27 Jul 2026 · 25 min
You have waited one year, or three, or seven, and the person who broke your trust still isn't really doing the recovery work. This episode is a discernment framework for the betrayed partner: how to tell real recovery from performed recovery on a calendar, what the research says about kids and high-conflict homes, and how to build the power to choose when finances keep you stuck. Get support at https://therapevo.com/healing-for-the-betrayed/?utm_source=podcast
S2 · E314 · 20 Jul 2026 · 27 min
If trying not to think about porn has only made the urges louder, this episode is for you. Caleb, a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist, explains why willpower fails by design, what actually happens in your brain during the 27 minutes an average urge lasts, and the four-move urge surfing skill that works instead. By the end you'll know exactly what to do the next time a wave hits. https://therapevo.com/porn-addiction/?utm_source=podcast
S2 · 16 Jul 2026 · 21 min
If your fights technically end but the distance lingers for hours or days, this episode is for you. Caleb and Verlynda unpack why repair, not the absence of conflict, is what actually keeps a marriage close, how to calm a flooded nervous system before you talk, and what a real apology sounds like versus the hollow "you're right, I'm sorry." Start here: https://therapevo.com/couples-counseling/?utm_source=podcast
S2 · 13 Jul 2026 · 28 min
If you just found out about an affair and everyone is asking you whether you'll stay or go, this episode is the permission you may not know you need. Caleb and Verlynda explain why a decision made in the first raw weeks is unreliable, what a structured pause actually looks like, and the full range of options that live between staying exactly as you were and ending it today. This is not a push to stay or to leave, but a way to protect your right to choose well. Learn more at https://therapevo.com/infidelity-recovery-for-couples/?utm_source=podcast
S2 · 9 Jul 2026 · 27 min
If you have ever wondered why one specific kind of porn pulls you in when you scroll past everything else, this episode is for you. Caleb and Verlynda unpack the idea of your arousal template, why porn so often becomes a way to medicate an old wound rather than a simple matter of sex drive, and why understanding the why does more than white-knuckling ever will. There is also a direct, compassionate word for betrayed partners. Whether you are a man or a woman, this one is worth your time. https://therapevo.com/porn-addiction/?utm_source=podcast
S2 · E313 · 6 Jul 2026 · 24 min
If you discovered a betrayal and found yourself wanting your partner more instead of less, this episode is for you. We unpack what hysterical bonding is, why your nervous system reaches for the very person who hurt you, and the crash in desire that often follows months later, so you can stop treating your own response as the problem. Start here for support: https://therapevo.com/healing-for-the-betrayed/?utm_source=podcast
S2 · 2 Jul 2026 · 32 min
In the first days after discovering a partner's betrayal, the disorientation can feel like losing your mind, and your nervous system has a clinical reason for doing exactly what it's doing. Caleb and Verlynda walk through what reality rupture is, why every past memory is suddenly suspect, and four practical conditions that help your nervous system reorient against the truth. https://therapevo.com/healing-for-the-betrayed/?utm_source=podcast
S2 · 29 Jun 2026 · 35 min
Eighteen months in, your partner is sober, transparent, and doing the work. And you still feel like a stranger in your own life. In this episode we name what we call the year-two wall in betrayal trauma recovery, why your nervous system is on its own timeline regardless of your partner's behavior, and the two reasons most partners get stuck at this phase, which is almost always both at once. Practical, clinically grounded, and the conversation almost nobody else is having. https://therapevo.com/contact-us/?utm_source=podcast
S2 · 27 Jun 2026 · 34 min
You apologized. You meant it every time. And it still isn't reaching your partner. In this episode, we walk through restitution after betrayal: the named clinical work that creates the conditions for repair, structured around three components and an honest look at the multi-year arc. For the partner who caused the harm and wants to do the work seriously, the prescription is here. https://therapevo.com/help-for-the-betrayer/?utm_source=podcast
S2 · E312 · 27 Jun 2026 · 34 min
You quit porn three months ago and you still can't function with your wife. In this episode, Caleb and Verlynda walk through what's actually happening in your brain, what the flatline is, and the recovery pathway most men in the abstinence-only forums never hear about. https://therapevo.com/contact-us/?utm_source=podcast
S2 · 15 Jun 2026 · 39 min
Three to nine months into your spouse's recovery, the language of healing can start to sound like a weapon. He says he is dysregulated. He talks about boundaries. And every conversation about what he did ends with you being the one who needs to do more work. In this episode, we walk through the five most common patterns of weaponized therapy speak, why DARVO with a clinical vocabulary is harder to name than ordinary gaslighting, and what to actually do when you hear it. https://therapevo.com/healing-for-the-betrayed/?utm_source=podcast
S2 · 8 Jun 2026 · 30 min
If you have promised yourself again and again that this would be the last time and ended up back in the same place, this episode is for you. Caleb walks through why hating your porn use is not the same as being able to stop, why self-disgust often fuels the cycle rather than interrupting it, and what actually starts to make the loop lose its grip. For more on this and to book a free 20-minute consult, visit https://therapevo.com/porn-addiction/?utm_source=podcast.
S2 · 1 Jun 2026 · 30 min
If you've stopped acting out, started doing the repair work, and your partner still ends up hurt by the conversations you thought you handled well, this episode names what's actually going on. Caleb and Verlynda walk through the empathic stress paradox, the three shame patterns that re-injure your partner during active recovery, and why individual therapy on shame is often the missing piece. https://therapevo.com/help-for-the-betrayer/?utm_source=podcast
S2 · E311 · 25 May 2026 · 28 min
If you've been wondering why your betrayal trauma recovery seems to restart every time your partner discloses something new, your nervous system isn't broken. It's reading new evidence of past deception as a current threat, exactly as it's built to. In this episode we walk through what's actually happening in your body, why more information doesn't bring the calm it seems like it should, and what complete honesty actually means in this season. https://therapevo.com/healing-for-the-betrayed/?utm_source=podcast
S2 · 21 May 2026 · 32 min
When one partner wants couples therapy and the other won't come, most advice says wait. Clinically, that's a mistake. Caleb and Verlynda walk through what individual work toward a marriage actually looks like when only one of you is ready, why it isn't a venting subscription about your spouse, and what happens when your spouse finally walks in. Learn more at https://therapevo.com/couples-counseling/?utm_source=podcast
Formerly: The Marriage Podcast for Smart People. Co-hosted by Caleb and Verlynda Simonyi-Gindele. We are married to each other and are both counselors who have worked extensively with couples and individuals. We own Therapevo Counselling Inc., a counselling agency that delivers hope and healing to c
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