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   S2 · 9 Jul 2026 · 27 min

   Why Am I Attracted to Certain Porn? Reading the Wound Underneath

   If you have ever wondered why one specific kind of porn pulls you in when you scroll past everything else, this episode is for you. Caleb and Verlynda unpack the idea of your arousal template, why porn so often becomes a way to medicate an old wound rather than a simple matter of sex drive, and why understanding the why does more than white-knuckling ever will. There is also a direct, compassionate word for betrayed partners. Whether you are a man or a woman, this one is worth your time. https://therapevo.com/porn-addiction/?utm_source=podcast

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   S2 · E313 · 6 Jul 2026 · 24 min

   Hysterical Bonding: Why You Want Him More After Betrayal

   If you discovered a betrayal and found yourself wanting your partner more instead of less, this episode is for you. We unpack what hysterical bonding is, why your nervous system reaches for the very person who hurt you, and the crash in desire that often follows months later, so you can stop treating your own response as the problem. Start here for support: https://therapevo.com/healing-for-the-betrayed/?utm_source=podcast

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   S2 · 2 Jul 2026 · 32 min

   Why Discovering Betrayal Feels Like You're Going Crazy

   In the first days after discovering a partner's betrayal, the disorientation can feel like losing your mind, and your nervous system has a clinical reason for doing exactly what it's doing. Caleb and Verlynda walk through what reality rupture is, why every past memory is suddenly suspect, and four practical conditions that help your nervous system reorient against the truth. https://therapevo.com/healing-for-the-betrayed/?utm_source=podcast

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   S2 · 29 Jun 2026 · 35 min

   The Year-Two Wall in Betrayal Trauma Recovery: Why You Still Feel Dead Inside

   Eighteen months in, your partner is sober, transparent, and doing the work. And you still feel like a stranger in your own life. In this episode we name what we call the year-two wall in betrayal trauma recovery, why your nervous system is on its own timeline regardless of your partner's behavior, and the two reasons most partners get stuck at this phase, which is almost always both at once. Practical, clinically grounded, and the conversation almost nobody else is having. https://therapevo.com/contact-us/?utm_source=podcast

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   S2 · 27 Jun 2026 · 34 min

   Restitution After Betrayal: The Repair Work an Apology Cannot Do

   You apologized. You meant it every time. And it still isn't reaching your partner. In this episode, we walk through restitution after betrayal: the named clinical work that creates the conditions for repair, structured around three components and an honest look at the multi-year arc. For the partner who caused the harm and wants to do the work seriously, the prescription is here. https://therapevo.com/help-for-the-betrayer/?utm_source=podcast

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   S2 · 15 Jun 2026 · 39 min

   Is Your Spouse Using Therapy Language to Gaslight You? The Five Patterns of Weaponized Therapy Speak

   Three to nine months into your spouse's recovery, the language of healing can start to sound like a weapon. He says he is dysregulated. He talks about boundaries. And every conversation about what he did ends with you being the one who needs to do more work. In this episode, we walk through the five most common patterns of weaponized therapy speak, why DARVO with a clinical vocabulary is harder to name than ordinary gaslighting, and what to actually do when you hear it. https://therapevo.com/healing-for-the-betrayed/?utm_source=podcast

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   S2 · 8 Jun 2026 · 30 min

   Why You Hate Your Porn Use But Still Can't Stop

   If you have promised yourself again and again that this would be the last time and ended up back in the same place, this episode is for you. Caleb walks through why hating your porn use is not the same as being able to stop, why self-disgust often fuels the cycle rather than interrupting it, and what actually starts to make the loop lose its grip. For more on this and to book a free 20-minute consult, visit https://therapevo.com/porn-addiction/?utm_source=podcast.

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   S2 · 1 Jun 2026 · 30 min

   Why the Betrayer Keeps Hurting Their Partner During Recovery

   If you've stopped acting out, started doing the repair work, and your partner still ends up hurt by the conversations you thought you handled well, this episode names what's actually going on. Caleb and Verlynda walk through the empathic stress paradox, the three shame patterns that re-injure your partner during active recovery, and why individual therapy on shame is often the missing piece. https://therapevo.com/help-for-the-betrayer/?utm_source=podcast

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   S2 · E311 · 25 May 2026 · 28 min

   Trickle Truth and Why Recovery Keeps Restarting

   If you've been wondering why your betrayal trauma recovery seems to restart every time your partner discloses something new, your nervous system isn't broken. It's reading new evidence of past deception as a current threat, exactly as it's built to. In this episode we walk through what's actually happening in your body, why more information doesn't bring the calm it seems like it should, and what complete honesty actually means in this season. https://therapevo.com/healing-for-the-betrayed/?utm_source=podcast

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    S2 · 21 May 2026 · 32 min

    My Spouse Won't Go to Couples Therapy: What to Do When Only One of You Is Ready

    When one partner wants couples therapy and the other won't come, most advice says wait. Clinically, that's a mistake. Caleb and Verlynda walk through what individual work toward a marriage actually looks like when only one of you is ready, why it isn't a venting subscription about your spouse, and what happens when your spouse finally walks in. Learn more at https://therapevo.com/couples-counseling/?utm_source=podcast