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Hey kooks! Your lovable scientists are back, and they’re vying for a Nobel Prize (they’ll take any one of them) while tackling an extremely relatable whatado from a 23 year old “shy introvert” in San Francisco asking for newbie dating advice. Jess and Caroline insist that being charismatic isn’t the only way to stand out on the dating scene and wax poetic about the value of being courageous. Then Jess tells us all about a new challenge she accepted and its profound healing effect. And Caroline reflects on her own relationship to fear. The whole conversation leads these two to reflect on the…
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Not For Everyone
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Not for Everyone is a podcast hosted by a hater (Caroline Winkler) and a lover (Jess DeBakey). We're just two sweet kooks getting carried away being ourselves, waxing poetic on every topic we care too much about. Come for the humor, stay for the honesty. We know we’re not for everyone, but we bet we
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