The Sunday Scaries Solution

0:00Speaker 1:Welcome back to seven Minutes Sunday on the Switch Pivot Quick podcast. I'm your host, so Yanna Angel, and we are going to spend the next seven minutes together getting you filled up with inspiration and goodness, of course, to get your mind primed to achieve greatness as you enter the week ahead. We are still talking about the psychology of playing small, right, We're getting into the mental side beyond just the phrase quit playing small. And today we're going to be talking about the Sunday scaries and the possible solution. I know this used to happen to me.

0:38Speaker 1:It was like a Sunday night and I would feel this unease and my stomach. Some might even call it like a pit, that creeping anxiety that you might feel as Monday morning starts to approach. Have you ever felt that? Like I said, I'm all too familiar with that feeling. But what if I told you that that feeling isn't something that you should be trying to push through, get on the other side of and just power through. It's something to in fact pay attention to. What if your Sunday scaries are actually your internal compass trying to give you directions? So today we're talking about how to decode what your weekend anxiety is really telling you about your life, about yourself, and about maybe your next steps. But the longest time, I really thought Sunday scaries were just part of being a responsible dope. It's something we all have to feel. It's something that we all dread Sunday night rolling into the next week. I just thought it was the norm. Everyone feels that right, that heaviness when the weekend ends. I convince myself it was normal, natural, until I realize that there are people who do not feel

2:04Speaker 1:this way. Some In fact, there are even people that you may admire. After interviewing hundreds of people for this podcast which privulor quit, as well as doing personal development work and working with people individually, I came to realize that some people actually get excited about Mondays when they love what they do. I also realize that Sunday scaries aren't this universal given and this natural human experience that everyone has. It is a symptom of misalignment. Your body is more sophisticated than you will ever know. Your internal GPS and navigation system has all of the clues. It knows the difference between what may be challenging work that energizes you, and challenging work that may be drained you, intopletes and takes away from you. It knows when you're growing versus when you're just grinding it out and in that hustle survival, maybe even mentality. And every Sunday, your body is giving you a report card. So let's break it down. Because Sunday scaries are your internal GPS. We know now, So I think your Sunday scaries are trying to tell you one of three things. They're trying to

3:27Speaker 1:send you a message. Message number one may be that you're not engaged. If your Sunday anxiety feels like boredom dressed up as dread, your GPS is telling you that you're underutilized. You're capable of more than what Monday through Friday is asking of you. So that means there isn't a problem with your work ethic. It's a problem with your work alignment. You need to be challenged more. You need to invite more creativity into your week. You need more opportunities that use your natural skill sets that you feel good about. Message number two that your internal GPS could be sending you is that you're not growing. The message is glaring saying you are not growing. If your Sunday anxiety is all about the sameness that you don't want to repeat, it feels like dread the same problems, the same conversations, the same actions, the same routine, everything is on repeat. Then your GPS is telling you that you've stopped evolving, You're maintaining instead of expanding. And this type of angst comes from being way too comfortable for way too long. Message number three, you're not authentic. This is a big one, and I know that that can sting.

5:03Speaker 1:If your Sunday anxiety feels like you have to put on a costume that you don't want to wear, then your GPS is telling you there's a gap between who you are and who you have to be Monday through Friday. In essence, you're performing. You're giving them a version of yourself that doesn't match internally, your truth and who you are. And all performers they have a limit, they have a max out burnout and you need to turn it off at some point. And maybe that Saturday and Sunday is just not enough recovery time for you. So let's think about how we can offer ourselves some actionable solutions. Because now we've started to identify some of the sources, let's figure out what we can do on the other side of that. Instead of pushing through the feeling, get curious about it. Ask yourself, what specifically am I dreading? Is it the peace, people, the projects, the pace? Maybe the purpose?

6:05Speaker 1:Is it that I'm not challenged enough, or that maybe I'm challenged in ways that don't align with my strengths so it just feels unnecessarily hard or ridiculous. Then ask yourself if I could change one thing about my Monday through Friday to make Sunday evening feel a little lighter, what would that be? What would I change? Your answer to all of these questions, that's your roadmap, not necessarily calling for you to take immediate action, but for you to start strategically planning. Maybe you need to have a conversation with your manager about taking on different types of projects.

6:47Speaker 1:Maybe you need to start building skills that align with where you actually want to go. Maybe you need to start exploring what authentic success looks like for you. Want you to remember this Sunday scaries aren't something to endure and push through. There's something for you to decode. It's an opportunity there instead of a barrier. So this week I want you to challenge yourself with a little investigation. Next Sunday evening, instead of distracting yourself from the anxiety, I challenge you to do what the hard thing is.

7:26Speaker 1:It's what my previous therapist used to encourage me to do. Sit with yourself, sit with the feelings, feel the feelings, identify and name the feelings, but don't like take on the feelings right. Ask yourself these specific questions. What exactly am I dreading about tomorrow? Is this about the work itself or how the work makes me feel? And last question, what would need to change for me to feel neutral or maybe even excited about Monday? Write down your answers.

8:04Speaker 1:Don't judge yourself, don't judge the answers, don't try to solve them immediately, just document You're gathering intelligence about your own internal guidance system. After you've done this for a few weeks, your patterns will start to emerge, and patterns give you power to make strategic changes instead of just living for the weekend making decisions haphazardly in the moment. You will start to identify areas for you to be able to improve and make changes. So remember this. Your anxiety isn't your enemy in this case, think of it as your advisor. Next week, we're talking all about the difference between shrinking to fit and expanding to lead, honey, and why your gifts need room to in fact breathe.

8:54Speaker 1:Ha ha ha, let it breathe. Thank you so much for spending time with me today. I appreciate your presence. I hope you have an amazing week ahead. I know that you might be listening to this on a Sunday and the scaries feel what scary? But you got this. There's a way to the other side, and you just need to take the time for yourself to be able to work through it. All right, I will talk to you next week, and until then, be well.