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The Hook Up

by triplej · English · Society & Culture

The Hook Up is about love, sex and relationships. We answer your questions, learn things together, cry over heartbreak and normalise shit. Every Tuesday Dee and Pip debate your dating dilemmas and hear your cooked stories. Every Thursday it's the sex ed you never had — we call on an expert to go dee

New episodes: Several times a week
Typical length: 34 min
Latest: 12 Oct 2026
Language: English

Latest episode

12 Oct 2026 · 50 minNew

Getting Out Of The Manosphere W/ Flynn Martin

Over the last few years, the manosphere has been a hot topic. We’ve watched investigations by doco makers, interviews with incels and pick up artists, and popular manosphere podcasters continue to go viral on social media. But what about the “red pilled” men who’ve changed their mind and come out the other side with a new POV? In this ep, special guest Flynn Martin joins us to tell us his story of being radicalised by manosphere content and how he got out, alongside hearing your experiences of the manosphere - whether you started to resonate and adopt its ideology, or if a sibling, parent or…

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7 Oct 2026 · 34 min
Is Abandonment A Form Of Abuse?
Alpine Divorce has been a big convo this year, with people all over the world sharing stories of a partner abandoning them in a remote or dangerous place like a hiking trail or mountain. So does someone storming off mean they need to cool down, or is it a sign of abuse? In this ep, Elisabeth Shaw from Relationships Australia helps us learn the signs. SHOW NOTES: 1800 RESPECT - 1800 737 732 Mensline Australia - 1300 789 978 13 YARN - 13 92 76 Relationships Australia - https://www.relationships.org.au/ Alpine Divorce Podcast - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a0aAfN1MDpk Women are being…
5 Oct 2026 · 31 min
Alpine Divorce: When You've Been Abandoned By Your Partner
“Alpine divorce” is when someone abandons their romantic partner in a remote or dangerous outdoor setting like a hiking trail, bushwalk or mountain. The term went viral this year, and women all over the world started sharing their own stories of being left behind by their male partners in the wilderness. But can it happen to anyone regardless of gender? And is it happening in places other than out in nature? In this episode, explore this phenomenon with your stories of abandonment and hear your theories as to why it happens. SHOW NOTES: 1800 RESPECT - 1800 737 732 Mensline Australia - 1300…
30 Sep 2026 · 30 min
What It Means If You Like Getting Caught Or Watching People Have Sex
Over half of you told us that the idea of being caught having sex turns you on! So why are so many people into this? In this ep, Dee chats to sexologist Laura Lee to delve deep into the psychology of this kink, the ethics and nuance of consent, and the best way to live out your fantasy of watching people or being watched in real life. SHOW NOTES: Getting Caught Ep - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0Yx76xUZ5cE Laura Lee IG - https://www.instagram.com/lauraleesexology/?hl=en DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected] The…
28 Sep 2026 · 42 min
Do You Wanna Get Caught In The Act…?
Whether it’s the thrill of having sex with a window or door left slightly open. Maybe you fantasise about having sex in public, or being watched at a sex party. If the thought of being seen doing something private or intimate turns you on, this ep is for you. We hear your fantasises and experiences of getting caught, and how you feel about consent with this kink. DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected] The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the…
23 Sep 2026 · 33 min
We Need To Chat About Smart Glasses and Consent
How do you feel about smart glasses? Lots of people are loving them with Meta selling millions this year, but lots of people are worried about surveillance, the potential harm, and being filmed without consent. In this ep, we chat to Dr Milly Stilinovic who’s been researching the impact of smart glasses and pick up artists, to find out why she wants them banned altogether. SHOW NOTES: 1800 RESPECT - 1800 737 732 Dr Milica Stilinovic - https://profiles.sydney.edu.au/milica.stilinovic Research on pick up artists -…
21 Sep 2026 · 41 min
Why Are Women Witchy Again?
While we’re past the days of witch hunts and trials, some people think there’s something magical that still lingers in our blood - some would even call it “women’s intuition”. But why are we now seeing a resurgence of modern women engaging with the spiritual and supernatural world, and reclaiming the word ‘witch’? In this episode we take a look at the history of witches and paganism, and figure out why in modern times we’re seeing women turn to the ways of old - crystals, tarot, manifesting, astrology, even potion making, spell-casting and hexing. SHOW NOTES: Dee’s Hack story on witches:…
16 Sep 2026 · 22 min
No Ones Wearing Condoms Anymore And It’s A Huge Problem
Apparently condom use is at its lowest recorded level since 1992 - and it’s causing a national emergency of STI rates. So why are people avoiding the rubber? In this ep, you’ll hear about the latest research from sexual health expert Jason Ong and get advice on what to do if someone’s shaming you for wanting to use one. SHOW NOTES: Jason Ong - https://www.mshc.org.au/about/our-team Stay STI Free - https://www.staystifree.org.au/ Sexual Health Victoria - https://www.shvic.org.au/ La Trobe Study - https://www.latrobe.edu.au/arcshs/work/sexual-health/national-survey-of-secondary-students DM us…
14 Sep 2026 · 31 min
Best Of Hook Up Guests
We’re on a little break! But we’re dipping into the archive to bring you the best moments provided by some of our favourite guests! From VERY controversial hot takes from comedians Will Gibb and Daniel Foxx, to Angela White’s sex advice on squirting and eating pussy, chatting threesomes with Hunter Smith and unpacking queer female sexuality with Jordan Barr and height in dating with Blake Pavey - we revisit our favourite moments! DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected] The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by…
9 Sep 2026 · 35 min
Embracing Single When It Wasn’t What You Wanted w/ Sheree Joseph
What happens when you don't end up with the life you always dreamt of? For writer Sheree Joseph it was getting married and having kids. But after her long-term relationship ended and an unsuccessful fertility journey, she had to face a future she never expected for herself. In this chat, Sheree chats to Dee about her journey, the grief she experienced, and what it’s been like to embrace being single and child-free in her early 30s. SHOW NOTES: Sheree Joseph Memoir Juicy - https://publishing.hardiegrant.com/en-au/books/juicy-by-sheree-joseph/9780645858136 Sheree Joseph IG -…
7 Sep 2026 · 29 min
Best Of Your Stories
We’re on a little break! But we’re dipping into the archive to bring you the best stories provided by YOU - our extremely sexy smart cool listeners! From cum-piphanies and public break ups, to pleasure dom mommy’s and meeting soulmates in the rideshare - we revisit our favourite and most memorable voice memos sent in by The Hook Up fam. DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected] The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our…
2 Sep 2026 · 33 min
Investigative Journalist By Day Sex Worker By Night w/ Bension Siebert
After being made redundant from his dream job as an investigative journalist, Bension Siebert turned to sex work to make money and surprised himself by how much he enjoyed it. In this ep, Bension chats to Dee about ‘coming out’ with his new profession, the reaction online and what he’s learnt about the industry. SHOW NOTES: Bension’s Cheek Article - https://cheekmedia.substack.com/p/how-sex-work-saved-my-investigative Bension’s IG - https://www.instagram.com/bensionfindsout/ DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected]…
31 Aug 2026 · 41 min
“Opposites Attract” But Do They Make Good Partners?
We all know the phrase but does dating someone who’s completely different to you actually work? In this ep, we hear your stories of dating people who are opposite in lifestyle, interests and core values, compared to people who’ve dated similar - and find out if compatibility can work both ways. SHOW NOTES: Why Do Opposites Attract? https://www.verywellmind.com/is-it-true-that-opposites-attract-in-relationships-5194818 Global study on opposites do not attract: https://www.psypost.org/why-opposites-dont-attract-a-global-study-reveals-the-true-rules-of-romantic-compatibility/…
26 Aug 2026 · 25 min
How To Heal After Heartbreak
Going through heartbreak can be one of the most painful experiences and sometimes those break up scars don’t leave - when you start dating again. So in this ep, we chat to Dr Marny Lishman about the walls we put up after being hurt, how to heal and trust in love again. SHOW NOTES: Break Up Podcast - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ac0wdFkrIUA Dr Marny Lishman - https://www.marnylishman.com.au/ Only You: The Unexpected Gift Of Being Alone - https://www.marnylishman.com.au/books DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected]…
24 Aug 2026 · 46 min
What’s The Best Way To Get Over An Ex?
We can all agree that break ups are a universally shit experience, whether it’s a long term relationship or situationship. In this episode we’re unpacking all the challenges and questions you have - should you go no contact? How long should you wait before hooking up with someone new? Are my friends sick of hearing about my heartbreak? And can a break up actually be a good thing for ~personal development~? SHOW NOTES Breakup Glowup - https://www.tiktok.com/@yourfree_therapy/video/7534079578067750164 Rebound - https://breeze-wellbeing.com/blog/what-is-a-rebound-relationship/ Marie Claire Glow…
19 Aug 2026 · 23 min
The Rise Of Spicy BookTok w/ Tierney Page
There are millions of posts on TikTok all about ‘spicy books’ and someone who’s become famous for reviewing them is author and content creator Tierney Page. In this ep, she chats about why she thinks there’s been a massive rise in people reading and posting about romantasy and smut, her fav tropes and genres and her journey to becoming an author. SHOW NOTES: watch our romantasy ep with Esme Louise James here - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MXKoC94haC4 Tierney Page TikTok here - https://www.tiktok.com/@tierney.reads?lang=en DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at…
17 Aug 2026 · 1 hr
Why Are We So Obsessed With Romantasy?
Whether you have or haven’t read books like Heated Rivalry, A Court of Thorns and Roses or Fourth Wing, you can’t deny the rise in smutty literature. In 2025 romantasy and sports romance experienced triple-digit growth. But there’s been some criticism around how DR and romantasy books often glamourise SA and are too accessible for young readers. In today’s episode Dee is joined by guest co-host Esme James, a sex historian and author, to discuss why we’re all so obsessed with fantasy smut. SHOW NOTES:…
12 Aug 2026 · 30 min
How To Support A Loved One With Addiction
Whether it’s drugs, alcohol, or gambling - addiction can be one of the hardest things to navigate in a relationship. In this episode we chat to clinical psychologist Donna Stambulich about her experience with amphetamine addiction, the impact it has on relationships and how to best support your partner or loved one. SHOW NOTES: Lifeline - 13 11 14 Donna Stambulich - https://nppsych.com.au/our-psychologists Recode Me - https://recode-me.com.au/ Episode with Luke Bateman on Gambling - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KTl8Royc2rU&t=16s DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at…
10 Aug 2026 · 53 min
When Your Love Life Is Affected By Gambling
What’s the bet you or someone you know has been affected by gambling? Probably pretty high. Around 3 million Australians experience some sort of gambling harm each year. And 1.2 million Australians are affected by someone else's gambling. And it can have a real impact on your dating or love life. In today’s episode we speak with Luke Bateman, ex-NRL star turned author, about his past addiction and tips on reaching the other side. SHOW NOTES: Lifeline - 13 11 14 Gambling Helpline - 1800 858 858 Gambling Help Online - https://www.gamblinghelponline.org.au/ Luke Bateman IG -…
5 Aug 2026 · 33 min
Chem Sex Parties & Gay Pain w/ Fruit Fly Author Josh Silver
Who has the right to tell queer stories and profit off them? That’s the main theme author Josh Silver explores in his latest book Fruit Fly. The book follows a writer who befriends a young gay addict so she can use his story to write a best seller. In this ep, Dee chats to Josh about his own story as an ex addict, the world of chem sex parties, and why it’s important to share perspectives of gay pain and trauma. SHOW NOTES: Lifeline: 13 11 14 QLife: https://qlife.org.au/ Josh Silver IG: https://www.instagram.com/joshsilverauthor/?hl=en Fruit Fly:…
3 Aug 2026 · 42 min
Are You Worried You’re Too Vanilla In Sex?
Have you ever felt pressure to have a certain kind of sex? Sex positivity has been an incredible movement which has normalised and destigmatised adventurous, kinky and casual sex. But has that come at a cost? In this ep, we’re joined by guest co-host psychologist and sexologist Laura Lee to unpack whether sex positivity and hook up culture has created a new type of pressure and expectation to perform. SHOW NOTES: A women’s right to say ‘meh’ - https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2015/oct/10/sex-positivity-sexuality-ambivalence-feminism How sex positivity lost its way:…
31 Jul 2026 · 34 min
BONUS: We've decided to stop sharing a bed (w/ Dee Salmin!)
Surprise! We've got a Saturday Bonus ep for you! You probably heard all about Ben Ilobuchi's situationship troubles in this weeks episode. But did you hear the beef? Dee becomes The Grill's first guest to sear some rogue relationship-specific beefs like ghosting, the ick, and having to sleep in a bed with your partner. DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected] The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders…
29 Jul 2026 · 23 min
How To Have The ‘What Are We?’ Chat w/ Erika Ettin
If you’re dating, hooking up with, talking to, or seeing someone but you don’t know where things are going and you don’t know how to bring it up… Dating coach and author Erika Ettin has got you! In this ep, she has some tough love for anyone in a situationship, and will help you have the exclusive/relationship chat. SHOW NOTES: Situationship Ep: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=17Qr9ovC2N0 Erika Ettin Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alittlenudge/?hl=en DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected] The Hook Up is an…
27 Jul 2026 · 57 min
What The Hell Is A Situationship? And Am I In One?
Are you dating or hooking up with someone right now and you’re not really sure what’s going on? It feels like a relationship but you’ve never had the ‘exclusive chat’. You might be in a situationship… In this episode Dee is joined by guest co-host Ben Ilobuchi to unravel the relationship limbo. Show notes: Deding and Describing Situationships: https://www.researchgate.net/publication/378872949_Defining_and_Describing_Situationships_An_Exploratory_Investigation World Health Org:…
22 Jul 2026 · 31 min
How To Stop Self-Sabotaging w/ Dr Rebecca Ray
Have you noticed a pattern in your love life of ending things when a relationship starts to get serious? Or maybe you pick a fight, or ghost people or never commit to a second date. In this ep we chat to psychologist Dr Rebecca Ray about why we can sometimes self-sabotage and how to break that cycle. SHOW NOTES: Dr Rebecca Ray - https://rebeccaray.com.au/ DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected] The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin…
20 Jul 2026 · 48 min
Is Having A Type Problematic?
Whether it’s someone’s personality, physical attributes, career or aesthetic - sometimes we lean into a “type” of person who we’re attracted to and want to date. But can it ever be discriminatory, fetishisation or limiting to potential relationships? We hear your hot takes and discuss with special guest host Lauren French.
15 Jul 2026 · 31 min
Life As An Asexual Icon w/ Allie Daisy King
As much as we talk about sex on The Hook Up, for some people they have absolutely no interest in it. That’s what it’s like for writer, fashion girly, podcast host of Booksmart AND asexual baddie Allie Daisy King. In this ep Dee chat’s to Allie about her sexuality journey realising she was ace, what it’s like to live in a world that’s so obsessed with hooking up and dating and why she still loves to read romantasy and smut books. SHOW NOTES: Allie’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alliedaisyking/?hl=en Extra Virgin: https://www.youtube.com/@alliedaisyking ACE book:…
13 Jul 2026 · 42 min
What Are Your Relationship ‘Hacks’?
Doing the crossword together every week, writing letters to each other, mandatory date nights, surprise gifts, a commitment to a yearly getaway, and sleeping in separate beds. Whether you’re only a few months in, or years deep - we all have ways to keep the relationship vibes high and healthy. In this ep, we hear your hacks, tricks, rules and methods, to keep your relationship thriving. SHOW NOTES: Harvard University research on importance of Rituals: https://www.library.hbs.edu/working-knowledge/rituals-strengthen-couples-here-s-why-they-re-good-for-business-too Power of learning new things…
8 Jul 2026 · 34 min
Harrison James on Love And Healing After Child Sexual Abuse
Studies show that nearly 30% of Australians have experienced child sexual abuse - a horrific stat that award-winning activist and co-founder of the #YourReferenceAintRelevant campaign - Harrison James has been trying to change. In this ep, Dee chats to Harri about his activism, his survival of child sexual abuse and what’s helped with healing. As well as what he’s learnt from being in a loving and healthy relationship with his fiance Bella Johnston who actually joins us in the studio too! SHOW NOTES: Lifeline: 13 11 14 1800 RESPECT: 1800 737 732 Harrison James IG:…
6 Jul 2026 · 44 min
Is It Ok To Date Your Friend’s Ex?
Hooking up with your mate’s ex might be one of the biggest violations in a friendship. But is it totally black and white, or are there some grey areas? We hear your hot takes and stories - from you giving your blessing to friends hiding the relationship, and when pursuing the ex has damaged friendships beyond repair and earnt you the nickname sloppy seconds. DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected] The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin…

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Publisher: triplej
Language: English
Category: Society & Culture
New episodes: Several times a week
Typical length: 34 min
Latest episode: 12 Oct 2026
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