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   2 Sep 2026 · 33 min

   Investigative Journalist By Day Sex Worker By Night w/ Bension Siebert

   After being made redundant from his dream job as an investigative journalist, Bension Siebert turned to sex work to make money and surprised himself by how much he enjoyed it. In this ep, Bension chats to Dee about ‘coming out’ with his new profession, the reaction online and what he’s learnt about the industry. SHOW NOTES: Bension’s Cheek Article - https://cheekmedia.substack.com/p/how-sex-work-saved-my-investigative Bension’s IG - https://www.instagram.com/bensionfindsout/ DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected]…

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   31 Aug 2026 · 41 min

   “Opposites Attract” But Do They Make Good Partners?

   We all know the phrase but does dating someone who’s completely different to you actually work? In this ep, we hear your stories of dating people who are opposite in lifestyle, interests and core values, compared to people who’ve dated similar - and find out if compatibility can work both ways. SHOW NOTES: Why Do Opposites Attract? https://www.verywellmind.com/is-it-true-that-opposites-attract-in-relationships-5194818 Global study on opposites do not attract: https://www.psypost.org/why-opposites-dont-attract-a-global-study-reveals-the-true-rules-of-romantic-compatibility/…

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   26 Aug 2026 · 25 min

   How To Heal After Heartbreak

   Going through heartbreak can be one of the most painful experiences and sometimes those break up scars don’t leave - when you start dating again. So in this ep, we chat to Dr Marny Lishman about the walls we put up after being hurt, how to heal and trust in love again. SHOW NOTES: Break Up Podcast - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ac0wdFkrIUA Dr Marny Lishman - https://www.marnylishman.com.au/ Only You: The Unexpected Gift Of Being Alone - https://www.marnylishman.com.au/books DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected]…

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   24 Aug 2026 · 46 min

   What’s The Best Way To Get Over An Ex?

   We can all agree that break ups are a universally shit experience, whether it’s a long term relationship or situationship. In this episode we’re unpacking all the challenges and questions you have - should you go no contact? How long should you wait before hooking up with someone new? Are my friends sick of hearing about my heartbreak? And can a break up actually be a good thing for ~personal development~? SHOW NOTES Breakup Glowup - https://www.tiktok.com/@yourfree_therapy/video/7534079578067750164 Rebound - https://breeze-wellbeing.com/blog/what-is-a-rebound-relationship/ Marie Claire Glow…

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   19 Aug 2026 · 23 min

   The Rise Of Spicy BookTok w/ Tierney Page

   There are millions of posts on TikTok all about ‘spicy books’ and someone who’s become famous for reviewing them is author and content creator Tierney Page. In this ep, she chats about why she thinks there’s been a massive rise in people reading and posting about romantasy and smut, her fav tropes and genres and her journey to becoming an author. SHOW NOTES: watch our romantasy ep with Esme Louise James here - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MXKoC94haC4 Tierney Page TikTok here - https://www.tiktok.com/@tierney.reads?lang=en DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at…

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   12 Aug 2026 · 30 min

   How To Support A Loved One With Addiction

   Whether it’s drugs, alcohol, or gambling - addiction can be one of the hardest things to navigate in a relationship. In this episode we chat to clinical psychologist Donna Stambulich about her experience with amphetamine addiction, the impact it has on relationships and how to best support your partner or loved one. SHOW NOTES: Lifeline - 13 11 14 Donna Stambulich - https://nppsych.com.au/our-psychologists Recode Me - https://recode-me.com.au/ Episode with Luke Bateman on Gambling - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KTl8Royc2rU&t=16s DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at…

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   10 Aug 2026 · 53 min

   When Your Love Life Is Affected By Gambling

   What’s the bet you or someone you know has been affected by gambling? Probably pretty high. Around 3 million Australians experience some sort of gambling harm each year. And 1.2 million Australians are affected by someone else's gambling. And it can have a real impact on your dating or love life. In today’s episode we speak with Luke Bateman, ex-NRL star turned author, about his past addiction and tips on reaching the other side. SHOW NOTES: Lifeline - 13 11 14 Gambling Helpline - 1800 858 858 Gambling Help Online - https://www.gamblinghelponline.org.au/ Luke Bateman IG -…

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   5 Aug 2026 · 33 min

   Chem Sex Parties & Gay Pain w/ Fruit Fly Author Josh Silver

   Who has the right to tell queer stories and profit off them? That’s the main theme author Josh Silver explores in his latest book Fruit Fly. The book follows a writer who befriends a young gay addict so she can use his story to write a best seller. In this ep, Dee chats to Josh about his own story as an ex addict, the world of chem sex parties, and why it’s important to share perspectives of gay pain and trauma. SHOW NOTES: Lifeline: 13 11 14 QLife: https://qlife.org.au/ Josh Silver IG: https://www.instagram.com/joshsilverauthor/?hl=en Fruit Fly:…

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   3 Aug 2026 · 42 min

   Are You Worried You’re Too Vanilla In Sex?

   Have you ever felt pressure to have a certain kind of sex? Sex positivity has been an incredible movement which has normalised and destigmatised adventurous, kinky and casual sex. But has that come at a cost? In this ep, we’re joined by guest co-host psychologist and sexologist Laura Lee to unpack whether sex positivity and hook up culture has created a new type of pressure and expectation to perform. SHOW NOTES: A women’s right to say ‘meh’ - https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2015/oct/10/sex-positivity-sexuality-ambivalence-feminism How sex positivity lost its way:…

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    31 Jul 2026 · 34 min

    BONUS: We've decided to stop sharing a bed (w/ Dee Salmin!)

    Surprise! We've got a Saturday Bonus ep for you! You probably heard all about Ben Ilobuchi's situationship troubles in this weeks episode. But did you hear the beef? Dee becomes The Grill's first guest to sear some rogue relationship-specific beefs like ghosting, the ick, and having to sleep in a bed with your partner. DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected] The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders…