STAYING THE SAME IS HARDER THAN GROWING

0:00[SPEAKER_00]: To whoever this may impact, sometimes our lives have to be completely shaken up, changed, and rearranged to relocate as we were really meant to be. [SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes, change feels like loss, transformation is scary, and sometimes, to discover the best versions of ourselves, we must let go of absolutely everything that's holding us down. [SPEAKER_00]: Welcome to our mystery, your new safe space. [SPEAKER_00]: I'm excited to form a part of your healing journey.

0:25[SPEAKER_00]: Today's episode is one that I've been waiting to talk about for a while because starting over has been such a huge theme in my own life lately. [SPEAKER_00]: And I know that a lot of you are in that season 2. [SPEAKER_00]: The season where you can feel that something has ended or needs to end. [SPEAKER_00]: And you're too scared of what comes next. [SPEAKER_00]: You're scared of change. [SPEAKER_00]: Scared of letting go. [SPEAKER_00]: Scared of rebuilding.

0:45[SPEAKER_00]: So this episode is for anyone who feels like their life just fell apart. [SPEAKER_00]: But like it's about to. [SPEAKER_00]: and you're terrified of having to start again. [SPEAKER_00]: Let's talk about why starting over is in something to fear, but something to honor. [SPEAKER_00]: And things aren't our failures. [SPEAKER_00]: Let's start here. [SPEAKER_00]: And things don't mean you failed. [SPEAKER_00]: They mean you grew, but we live in a world that glorifies consistency.

1:05[SPEAKER_00]: The same job for years, the same relationship forever, the same version of yourself until the end of time. [SPEAKER_00]: And so when something ends, when we are grow something or someone, we feel guilty, we feel shame, we call it failure. [SPEAKER_00]: But the truth is, the starting over doesn't mean you're back at zero. [SPEAKER_00]: You're not starting from scratch. [SPEAKER_00]: You're starting from experience. [SPEAKER_00]: Every chapter that ends, add something to you.

1:30[SPEAKER_00]: A lesson, a truth, a strength, a softness. [SPEAKER_00]: You carry all of it forward. [SPEAKER_00]: So when you start again, you're not who you were last time. [SPEAKER_00]: Your wife's are now, strong you're now, softer, but deeper. [SPEAKER_00]: You've seen that doesn't work. [SPEAKER_00]: You've learned what matters. [SPEAKER_00]: And that means this time, you're building better. [SPEAKER_00]: The fear of the unknown is a huge one.

1:50[SPEAKER_00]: I get it. [SPEAKER_00]: The hardest part about starting over is not knowing what comes next. [SPEAKER_00]: The in-between that empty quiet space where the oldest gun but the new has interrupted. [SPEAKER_00]: It's scary. [SPEAKER_00]: It feels like falling without knowing if there's a net. [SPEAKER_00]: And it feels like walking in the dark hoping you're headed somewhere good. [SPEAKER_00]: But that's what faith is. [SPEAKER_00]: Faith isn't knowing the plan.

2:12[SPEAKER_00]: It's trusting that you'll figure it out as you go. [SPEAKER_00]: And you always do. [SPEAKER_00]: You've done it before. [SPEAKER_00]: Think about it. [SPEAKER_00]: Every new beginning in your life started with fear. [SPEAKER_00]: Your first day of school, your first move, your first heartbreak, your first job, and yet somehow you made it through every single one of them. [SPEAKER_00]: Fear doesn't mean stop. [SPEAKER_00]: It means something familiar.

2:34[SPEAKER_00]: And everything unfamiliar. [SPEAKER_00]: feel scary. [SPEAKER_00]: Until if you'll save. [SPEAKER_00]: So give it time because one day what scares you will now be something to look back on with gratitude. [SPEAKER_00]: Starting over is proof your brave. [SPEAKER_00]: Starting over takes courage. [SPEAKER_00]: It's not easy to walk away from what's known. [SPEAKER_00]: Even if what's known is in good for you anymore. [SPEAKER_00]: But it's braver.

2:55[SPEAKER_00]: to rebuild them to settle. [SPEAKER_00]: Anyone can stay where they're comfortable. [SPEAKER_00]: It takes strength to admit something no longer feels aligned. [SPEAKER_00]: So if you're in that season, if you're ending something, moving somewhere new, reinventing yourself, and walking away from people or patterns, be proud of yourself. [SPEAKER_00]: Most people never do. [SPEAKER_00]: Most people stay because starting again feels too hard, but not you, you're choosing yourself, even when it's uncertain.

3:22[SPEAKER_00]: And that's the kind of bravery that changes your entire life, the myth of starting from zero. [SPEAKER_00]: We have this idea that when something ends, we lose everything. [SPEAKER_00]: But that's not true. [SPEAKER_00]: When you start over, you don't lose the love that you gave, you don't lose the lessons that you learned. [SPEAKER_00]: You don't lose the strength it took to get here. [SPEAKER_00]: You take it all with you. [SPEAKER_00]: You're not a bag at square one.

3:43[SPEAKER_00]: You're just standing somewhere new with more wisdom, more resilience, more clarity. [SPEAKER_00]: You know yourself better now. [SPEAKER_00]: You know what you want, and more importantly, you know what you don't. [SPEAKER_00]: And starting over is in regression. [SPEAKER_00]: It's evolution. [SPEAKER_00]: You're not going backwards. [SPEAKER_00]: You're shifting directions. [SPEAKER_00]: And sometimes the universe will close doors, not because you failed, but because you were meant to walk through a better one.

4:07[SPEAKER_00]: The beauty of becoming something new, starting over gives you permission to redefine yourself. [SPEAKER_00]: To let go of the labels, the identities, the roles you outgrew, it gives you a blank canvas and maybe that's the part that feels so scary, because blank means unknown, but blank also means possibility. [SPEAKER_00]: playing means creation. [SPEAKER_00]: Playing means you get to decide who you are now. [SPEAKER_00]: You get to ask yourself, who am I?

4:33[SPEAKER_00]: When I'm not trying to be what everyone expects, what actually makes me happy, what kind of life do I want to build this time? [SPEAKER_00]: And that is the magic of starting over. [SPEAKER_00]: you get to answer those questions for yourself. [SPEAKER_00]: Release the timeline. [SPEAKER_00]: We're so afraid to start over because we think it means we're behind. [SPEAKER_00]: Like everyone else is moving forward and we're stuck rebuilding from the ground up.

4:54[SPEAKER_00]: But timelines are fake. [SPEAKER_00]: Live doesn't happen in straight lines. [SPEAKER_00]: You're not late, you're right on time. [SPEAKER_00]: For your story, comparison will kill your piece faster than failure ever will. [SPEAKER_00]: So stop comparing your chapter one. [SPEAKER_00]: to someone else chapter 10. [SPEAKER_00]: Some people find their purpose at 20. [SPEAKER_00]: Others at 50. [SPEAKER_00]: Some people fall in love young.

5:13[SPEAKER_00]: Others fall in love with life first. [SPEAKER_00]: And that's okay. [SPEAKER_00]: You're not supposed to have it all figured out. [SPEAKER_00]: You're supposed to be learning, evolving, trying, breaking, rebuilding, becoming. [SPEAKER_00]: So take that pressure off. [SPEAKER_00]: You're not behind. [SPEAKER_00]: You're just beginning again. [SPEAKER_00]: trust the process of rebuilding, starting over as a process, and it's not linear.

5:34[SPEAKER_00]: Some days you feel unstoppable, other days you question everything, you'll have moments of excitement, followed by moments of doubt, and that is normal, that's growth. [SPEAKER_00]: You're allowed to take it slow. [SPEAKER_00]: You're allowed to rebuild one break at a time. [SPEAKER_00]: Now every new beginning has to look loud and competent. [SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes, it's quiet. [SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes, it's messy. [SPEAKER_00]: And sometimes, it's just showing up and saying, I don't know what's next.

6:02[SPEAKER_00]: I am willing to find out. [SPEAKER_00]: Trust that every small step counts, trust that every effort is planting something new, just that even when you can't see it yet, the foundation is forming. [SPEAKER_00]: Let go of who you were. [SPEAKER_00]: You can't start over if you keep holding on to old versions of yourself. [SPEAKER_00]: The one who tolerated too much. [SPEAKER_00]: The one who settled. [SPEAKER_00]: The one who was scared.

6:22[SPEAKER_00]: You have to let her go. [SPEAKER_00]: Thank her. [SPEAKER_00]: She got you here. [SPEAKER_00]: She did her best, but you don't have to keep being her. [SPEAKER_00]: Starting over means choosing different. [SPEAKER_00]: It means giving yourself permission to evolve. [SPEAKER_00]: You're allowed to change your mind. [SPEAKER_00]: You're allowed to all grow people, dreams, habits, cities, and even versions of yourself. [SPEAKER_00]: You're allowed to become someone new again and again.

6:43[SPEAKER_00]: And every time you do, you're not losing yourself. [SPEAKER_00]: You're finding yourself more clearly. [SPEAKER_00]: What if it works out? [SPEAKER_00]: We spend so much time asking what if it doesn't work out? [SPEAKER_00]: What if it does? [SPEAKER_00]: What if the job you're scared to take? [SPEAKER_00]: becomes a one that changes your life. [SPEAKER_00]: What if the city you're scared to move to ends up feeling like home? [SPEAKER_00]: What if the person you're becoming?

7:04[SPEAKER_00]: Feels more like you than anyone you've ever been. [SPEAKER_00]: Starting over is in the end of something. [SPEAKER_00]: At the beginning of something new. [SPEAKER_00]: And it might just be better than anything that you've ever known before. [SPEAKER_00]: starting over is not a punishment. [SPEAKER_00]: It is a privilege. [SPEAKER_00]: It means you were brave enough to admit that something wasn't working anymore. [SPEAKER_00]: It means you didn't settle.

7:23[SPEAKER_00]: It means you choose truth over a comfort and that's not something everyone can do. [SPEAKER_00]: Most people stay. [SPEAKER_00]: They stay where it's familiar. [SPEAKER_00]: They say in relationships that don't grow, they say in jobs that drain them. [SPEAKER_00]: They say in brushes of themselves that no longer fit, just because starting over feels too hard, but you didn't. [SPEAKER_00]: You looked at your life and said, this isn't it anymore, and that takes courage, that takes honesty, and that takes love, real love.

7:48[SPEAKER_00]: They kind of put peace over performance. [SPEAKER_00]: So if you're starting over right now, I want you to stop seeing it as an ending and start seeing it as evidence of your strength. [SPEAKER_00]: Because starting over, it's proof that you refuse to lose yourself. [SPEAKER_00]: You're not starting from zero. [SPEAKER_00]: You're starting from every single thing you survived. [SPEAKER_00]: Every heartbreak, every failure. [SPEAKER_00]: Every wrist that didn't go the way that you thought it would.

8:11[SPEAKER_00]: You're starting with wisdom now, with clarity, with standards, and with boundaries. [SPEAKER_00]: So be grateful for yourself. [SPEAKER_00]: It means you are brave enough to trust your future more than your past. [SPEAKER_00]: It means you have the courage to believe that life still has a more for you, and it does. [SPEAKER_00]: This is your reminder that nothing truly ends. [SPEAKER_00]: It just transforms. [SPEAKER_00]: And every transformation starts with a single decision to try again.

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